Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

Peter may be merciful!

if the family (deceased/wife) were so stupid and didn’t have a will, then that’s just their bad luck.

If the family has no will, the brother of the deceased has nothing to do with the inheritance as soon as there is even one unborn child – in this case there were obviously several children (and grandchildren. They don’t count legally as long as the children are alive). So the case is probably (as is almost always the case) more complicated than can be represented here in three sentences. Or it’s not the brother of the deceased but the brother of the “good heir,” then a will doesn’t necessarily help against a sudden, unforeseen heir.

There was definitely no will, as married couples usually always appoint each other to avoid ruining the other. Especially with children...
In what family relationship the evil person stood is then secondary. Who gets how much without a will is "determined" by the probate court through the creation of the certificate of inheritance according to the known regulations. But he must be a major heir and not 1/20 or something like that, because then he could have been easily paid out.

Another example is, for instance, my grandmother. She had a big house right outside Berlin. When she died, her 7 children inherited the house. At that time, one of the 7 children had already been living in this house for several years. None of the children demanded their share of the house. I don't know if all 7 are registered in the land register or just the one. The house is probably worthless, the land right by the lake just outside the gates of Berlin probably worth a fortune. But there was never any quarrel because of it. Not bad at all. I think you "cash in" when the one living there passes away.

Kaho, I can understand you. In our circle of friends, we experience something similar, where the daughter tries to persuade her fit mother to give or sell all sorts of things. And just because you live 500km away doesn’t mean you are not allowed to worry. It’s the same with my grandmother, but still, I get involved in the matters.

Effectively, I can only advise you to talk to your grandmother. Tell her about your concerns and talk about what will happen in the event of her death. If expensive items are part of the estate, they should go directly to the designated persons in the will. That way they can’t disappear so quickly. Also, a living will and other documents should be given to the people who are then supposed to be responsible. I also pushed my grandmother at the time to sort out these matters while she was still fit enough. Her inheritance doesn’t affect me in the end, since fortunately all her children are still alive, but in the interest of my mother, I at least wanted to have brought it up. And what now? My grandmother is in need of care, and everyone knows what decisions they have to make, and in which direction the decision should go. That saves an enormous amount of stress. A year ago I also talked to my mother about sorting out her will. I don’t want the house; my brother can have it if he wants. A payout on my part should also be clarified. Who knows how I will be then in case of emergency, if I suddenly urgently need money. I also know that my mother wants me to decide whether she becomes in need of care or not and to receive the living will. She hopes that I can act more in her interest than my brother. So verbally everything is already settled with ME; soon (whenever that is) they want to put it in writing. Conclusion: Talk to her! Only that can help.

In September we want to visit Grandma. Then I will ask her again what should be done if she should feel worse.

In September we want to go visit Grandma. Then I will ask her again what should be done if she feels worse.

why only in September?

by then, your stupid aunt will have already been there 6 times