Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

Don't quite understand the connection. Old shirts?

Yeah, people who are greedy for inheritance just don't know that saying.

But it is important to me that my grandparents are not ripped off, yes.

You really have the wrong priorities. Poor grandma.

My father-in-law is always complaining about his sister-in-law and [seine nicht], who always "rip off" the grandparents and visit because of money. He's always making politics; his children should also visit sometimes.

It's always a one-sided perspective. When we see each other at Christmas or birthdays, they are also very, very generous to their great-grandchildren.

Sometimes it's 100 to 1,000 €!

Recently there was even a high four-figure amount.

Live and let live.

Always remember: if you don't have it, someone else does.

Yes, people greedy for inheritance just don't know the saying.

Aha. Interesting generalization theory. I'll ask around who doesn't know the saying...

You really have the wrong priorities. Poor grandma.

Which ones? That my grandma keeps her house and isn't forced into a home against her will seemed pretty important to me. But of course, I could also just punch the little jerk in the face. That would be another priority.

Having something “done” is different from you doing it. You are currently trying to interfere and control...

Well, the other party approached us with the hint that grandma was no longer quite clear. We couldn't understand that.

Maybe it’s already the case that people generally assume the worst about the "ass". That is of course true. Let's just wait and see how grandma is doing and what she says and what she wants. ...

In the end, your grandma has to declare her will

Hypothetical case: He goes to grandma and keeps nagging her that she should give him power of attorney over her financial affairs, in case she can no longer manage herself.

And how is kaho supposed to prevent that? Do the same thing himself? I just see very limited options to turn what you find out into measures.

Quite simple: Grandma makes a power of attorney. She does it now, while she is still lucid. And it can state, for example, that it only applies when she is no longer lucid. And of course, who should act then (alone or together with someone else); and that she doesn't want to go to a nursing home. Then everyone is happy: Grandma, because she can continue to decide everything herself as long as she can; and kaho674, because the authorized representative named in it is not Uncle Dumb. And the thread about his happy ending.

Very simple: Grandma makes a power of attorney for healthcare. She does it now while she is still clear-headed. And it can state, for example, that it should only take effect when she is no longer clear-headed.

...you can just throw the power of attorney in the trash. Who is supposed to check whether Grandma is no longer clear in her mind? And what does that mean? How is that supposed to be defined?

Not only referring to this thread here... based on professional and personal experience, I can recommend two things: advance healthcare directive and general power of attorney (notarized!!) but please make sure to find out exactly what that means, what scope it has, who you give it to, and what they can do with it.