Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

What am I supposed to do with my grandma if that guy sells her house from under her without her knowing and she ends up crying?

I already said this: Grandma herself should make a power of attorney so that this can't happen at all. And, as I also said: even better, she transfers the house during her lifetime and registers her right of residence in the land register. Even then, no one can push her out.

I can’t believe that you see it that way. What am I supposed to do with my grandma if that guy sells her house right from under her and she ends up crying? You think that’s okay? Then I don’t understand you and there’s little point in talking about it. I see it differently. Period.

When I read it like this, I feel like I’m talking to a child.

I can’t believe you see it that way. What am I supposed to do with my grandma if the guy sells her house out from under her and she cries? You think that’s okay? Then I don’t understand you, and there’s little point in talking about it. I see it differently. Period.

Dear Kaho, the grandma story doesn’t work anymore. It’s about your ego and your problem with a stranger who wants your family’s wealth.

What happens when grandma’s house is gone? YES then it’s gone and she has to go to a nursing home and you have to pay or the gifts will partly be reclaimed by the authorities.

As I said, we have the same situation and when it comes to money, my wife is rather “I don’t want anything to do with it.” But I notice as a neutral party vibes that I don’t like. I will report from the site.

Otherwise

Great post, that’s what I also tried to write. If it were that important, I would have worked on grandma for 4 weekends in a row and then even gone on an outing to the notary.

Then I don’t understand you and there’s little point in talking about it. I see it differently. Period.

Welcome to Absurdistan. One more for you:

The supposedly unavoidable inheritance dispute after Grandma’s death culminates in a court case because person XYZ sold the house during her lifetime, but now neither reveals the truth about the purchase price nor wants to hand over a share of the money.

The court will then, in addition to examining wills and contracts from when she was alive, etc., also try to reconstruct Grandma’s “last will.” That means an expert interviews the nursing service, the neighbors, and so on about what Grandma did all day and who she associated with. I’ll quote the alleged statements from the expert report:

Neighbor A: “Well, there was always the charming young man here... no, I never saw a granddaughter here, maybe once at Christmas.”

Neighbor B: “Grandma had a hard time getting around the house recently; it was good that she finally got to go to the nursing home, hardly anyone was there to help her.”

Nursing service: “We always discussed the organizational matters with the nice man from the family.”

Grandma’s friend in the nursing home: “She was very attached to the house but was also glad she didn’t have to take care of everything anymore. She was mentally alert, but could hardly walk anymore.”

So, what do you think the court will reconstruct as the last will from these statements?

Fortunately, we live in a society where all people are equally valuable. So even an unpopular “idiot” is legally worth no less than the immaculate granddaughter.

I stand by it: change the situation or accept it. You can’t always reconcile everything in life; sometimes you have to decide. Grandma’s well-being or your own convenience. If your animals are more important to you, okay, nobody has the right to judge that, you don’t have to justify yourself for it. But what you are conducting here is a sham debate “poor Grandma” “the evil idiot” “I can’t go there every week.” Many different people have now tried to explain to you that you’re on the wrong path, no one wants to harm you. You asked for neutral and anonymous opinions, now do yourself a favor and find your peace with it. Otherwise, you will destroy yourself over it.

I can't believe you see it that way. What am I supposed to do with my grandma if that guy sells her house out from under her and she ends up crying? You think that's okay? Then I don't understand you and there's little point in talking about it. I see it differently. Period.

Now you're really whining and acting like a toddler. Not only the language, but also the content and logic don't align with an adult person.

Yesterday I thought this thread or your own thought process was more shaped by your “guilty conscience”....
But rather, you're meddling in matters that don't concern you yet: you are just a granddaughter, your aunt is a daughter. Please accept that!

Let grandma live her life; that includes the other family more than you. And no idea how long your aunt's partner has already been part of the family: he sacrifices his time.
Unmarried, he can't do anything anyway.

Welcome to Absurdistan. I’ve got one more:

The supposedly inevitable inheritance dispute after grandma’s death culminates in a court case because person XYZ sold the house during their lifetime, but now neither reveals the truth about the purchase price nor wants to hand over a share of the money.

The court will then, besides reviewing wills and lifetime contracts, try to reconstruct grandma’s "last will." That means an expert interviews the care service, neighbors, etc. about what grandma did all day and who she was dealing with, etc. I quote the alleged statements in the expert report:

Neighbor A: "well, there was always that charming young man here... no, I never saw a granddaughter here, maybe once at Christmas"

Neighbor B: "Grandma was really having trouble managing in the house toward the end; it was good that she was finally allowed to go to a care home, there was hardly anyone around to help her"

Care service: "we always discussed all organizational matters with the nice man from the family"

Grandma’s friend in the care home: "she was very attached to the house, but was also glad she no longer had to take care of everything. She was mentally fit, but could barely walk anymore"

So, what do you think the court will reconstruct as the last will based on these statements?

Luckily, we live in a society where all people are equally valuable. So even an unpopular "idiot" is legally no less valuable than the immaculate granddaughter.

I’ll stick to it: change the situation or come to terms with it. You can’t always have everything under one roof in life; sometimes you have to decide. Grandma’s well-being or your own convenience. If your animals are more important to you, okay, no one has the right to judge that, you don’t have to justify yourself for it. But what you’re doing here is a sham debate: "poor grandma" "the bad idiot" "I can’t visit every week." Many different people have already tried to explain to you that you’re on the wrong track, no one wants to hurt you. You asked for neutral and anonymous opinions, do yourself a favor now and make your peace with it. Otherwise, you’ll destroy yourself over it.

Really... I could never write it like that. But my utmost respect for your charming yet firm words.

Exactly my point, no one can judge what goes on inside old people. In the neighborhood, we have a grandma whose husband is still active and doing his thing (sports, club, etc). She is rather limited and always sits at home and on the balcony.

She is so happy that someone talks to her. My neighbor always says she’s annoying and nosy because she’s always standing on the balcony. I say, she’s a poor "woman." Sick and left alone by her husband. She just wants a little social life.