Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

I know that legally only half belongs to Grandpa (unless there is a will), but why does he have to be "ripped off" at his age. As long as there are no other heirs for Grandpa than for Grandma, everything will be inherited anyway at the latest in the 2nd step.

well if the grandchildren give up but the aunt doesn’t, we would be pretty stupid----------------- because then half of grandma’s money would be gone for the 2 step correct?

Right, but you can sit down with your aunt: "Listen... what do you think about leaving grandpa alone for now. He's having a hard time as it is. You don't have to relieve him of his money." etc.

This "discussion thread" is degrading.

When we had to clear out my grandparents' apartment a few years ago, I would have preferred not to take anything at all. I found the idea of enriching myself with their belongings simply horrifying, especially since my grandfather was still living with dementia in a nursing home at the time. And it was primarily just about simple household items that would have otherwise been thrown away. The thought of also taking money at that point would have seemed strange to me.

This "discussion thread" is degrading.

Unfortunately, it reflects reality.

No matter how much one does not mean it badly or greedily, it often does not come across that way to other parties involved. Entire families often fall apart over inheritance.

Unfortunately, many testators do not see their responsibility, which they should take on before death to prevent the worst problems afterwards. I don’t just mean legal clarity, but discussions within the entire family about who gets what and why, what is arranged how and why, etc. – until all future heirs feel acknowledged and understand.
Very few people make that much effort, because the dear children are supposed to always get along well, please, please...