Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

I am more rational about it. But that is partly because in my family the siblings already take up positions during their lifetimes and at some family gatherings the house has already been discussed as a potential inheritance.

The nicest topic was that my sister wants the parental home and wants to take care of the nursing, even though we as children pay a very high nursing insurance. Find the mistake.

On the topic of aunt:

She also says that we as a family should definitely pay for the funeral. Which is also okay, but she does not give insight into the grandparents' finances.

Would never force Grandpa to pay out. I would definitely grab Aunt to make sure she leaves Grandpa alone...

When we had to clear out my grandparents' apartment a few years ago, I would have preferred not to take anything at all. I found the idea of profiting from their belongings simply horrible, especially since my grandpa was still living in a nursing home with dementia at the time. And it was primarily about simple household items that would have otherwise been thrown away. I would have found it unsettling to take money at that point.

That's how I felt when my grandma died. I didn't want anything. Just one or two "worthless" keepsakes. I was also too sad to think much about it. Although, due to the close proximity, no one would have noticed if I had already cleared out half the place beforehand. When my aunt and my cousin arrived a few days later and really packed everything that could be carried into the car (including jewelry, of course), I wondered why I had been so stupid. Unlike them, I wouldn't have turned everything I could into money afterwards. Conclusion: Others appreciate your decency. But is that really better?

That's all a bit crazy.
My aunt, when her mother – my grandma – died, cleared out the place. Really cleared it out. She even grabbed 10-year-old towels. You have to know, the lady is rich (not grandma, the aunt). Everyone around, including her own children, just shook their heads. But you don't know what's going on inside people; from the outside, you often can't tell. Is she greedy, attached to the things, doesn't want to let anything go to waste (that's how grandma was, maybe she wants to imitate her)?

It's like HilfeHilfe, who wants to defend his wife against a supposedly greedy family member. A third person sitting next to them who doesn't know this could think that the greedy husband of the deceased's daughter wants to snatch something for himself.
And then it starts.
I think it would be important first to stay cool and refrain from accusations. Whether the aunt wants to pocket something will be found out soon enough. As long as she hasn't done anything in that direction, one should be cautious with countermeasures.

Unfortunately, many testators do not see their responsibility that they should assume before death to prevent the worst problems after death.

The tradition of inheriting (that is, sitting on one's assets until the hour of death and then giving the heirs the deadly blow) is probably something that cannot be reasonably dissuaded from people.

In the "normal case" (i.e., one dies only at old age) the offspring should long since be grown up and firmly established. So I'll just say YOLO – why leave anything behind? – the "risk" of having to "squander" more than thirty years of living expenses at eighty is extremely low. So better to "turn it up" a bit and go to the pastry shop more often, or "in case of emergency" even take a cruise

Unfortunately, today's 80- or even 90-year-olds still hoard for the next war winter, and that won't get out of their bones anymore...

even though we as children pay a very high long-term care insurance. Find the mistake.

The statutory long-term care insurance is not a generational contract; each generation pays for itself – not for the parents.

The tradition of passing on inheritance (that is, sitting on one's assets until the hour of death and then giving the descendants the golden shot) cannot be reasonably discouraged.

In the "normal case" (i.e. one dies in old age), the kids should be grown up long ago and firmly established. So I'll just say YOLO - why leave something behind? - the "risk" of having to "blow" more than thirty years of living expenses at eighty is extremely low. So better to "turn it up" a bit and go to the confectioner more often, or "if necessary" take a cruise once in a while

Unfortunately, today's 80- or even 90-year-olds still stash away for the next war winter, and they can't get that out of their bones anymore...

The statutory long-term care insurance is not a generational contract; each generation pays for itself - not for the parents.

Children also pay for a private photovoltaic system additionally ....