Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

The thing with the 10,000 wouldn't have worked back then anyway, since you are receiving your compulsory portion.

It is what it is: he is your aunt's partner, and whether you like him or not... actually matters less. What counts is whether your grandma likes him.
There is certainly something to it if they already went together to the notary, but that too is just hearsay for you as for us. What of it is actually true you had to figure out together first.

Anyway: I don't take it for granted that the two of them spend every weekend with grandma. They could do something else, more entertaining, but they don't. In that respect, one could also award them something.
And 500km I don't think is a big deal - of course not for every weekend, but once a month you can fit it in if the relationship is actually that good.

Anyway: I don’t take it for granted that the two of them spend every weekend with grandma. They could do something else, something more entertaining, but they don’t. In that respect, one could also credit them with something.

Yes, I’m also glad that my aunt visits my grandma now and then. How often they are there, I can’t say exactly. But of course more often than we are. If only that idiot wasn’t there. Well, the main thing is that grandma is doing okay.

And I don’t think 500 km is the end of the world—of course not every weekend, but once a month you can fit it in if the relationship is really that good.

That’s already a lot, when you consider that it’s not just grandma, but the rest of the family also wants to be constantly visited. For example, in our case, from May until now we haven’t had a single weekend without some event. Our neighbors recently asked us why we built the house? We are never there. Working during the week and out and about on the weekend...

whether you like him or not... actually matters less. What matters is whether your grandma likes him.

At 97, you can't be picky about your contacts. It's really harsh - all friends dead, husband dead, first daughter dead. When you imagine that, it can really be depressing.

Sorry for bringing trouble here again! But that was intentional so I could poke a little! I see it the same way! If dear grandma is so close to your heart and not just the house that falls to the evil step-uncle, I DRIVE THERE IMMEDIATELY! Honestly, I don’t understand this thread either. I would get things done decisively. And a dog or business wouldn’t matter to me at all! You can also drive 500 km on a Saturday afternoon after closing time, stay somewhere, deal with grandma on Sunday and be back in the evening. I find it all somehow absurd

Don't understand, what am I supposed to do immediately at grandma's? What's so urgent there? Nothing! So far, the culprit hasn't said anything about grandma needing to go to a nursing home. If he tries again, maybe I'll go to him earlier. Then there will be a beating.

I recently talked to grandma on the phone and told her that we want to come by at the beginning of September. She's already looking forward to it.

Sorry for causing trouble here again! But it was intentional because I wanted to poke a little!

I see it the same way! If you care so much about dear grandma and not just about the house that falls to the evil step-uncle, I WOULD DRIVE THERE IMMEDIATELY!

Honestly, I don’t understand this thread either.

I would make it crystal clear. And I wouldn’t care about a dog or business at all!

You can also drive 500 km somewhere on a Saturday afternoon after closing time, stay overnight somewhere. Work on grandma Sunday and return in the evening. I find it all somehow absurd

If grandma were currently in the hospital, okay. Then I’d probably also consider driving off immediately. But grandma is fine. She will probably still be fine in 1 1/2 months. It’s nothing that needs to be settled immediately, but something you basically have to take care of. My mother would laugh at me if I stormed 500 km to her right away because I feel my brother’s girlfriend is trying to manipulate her.

By the way, this is not a matter you just quickly discuss with grandma in the dead of night. Such a thing requires sensitivity and quite a few conversations. You should also take your own time to calm down. Rushing off Saturday evening, then 5 to 7 hours of driving (the 500 km certainly aren’t all on the highway), then working on grandma Sunday (yeah great, then you’re no better than the old guy yourself) and rushing back Sunday. Umm no, that probably won’t be very productive.

Kaho has now taken on the unpleasant task of interrogating grandma and first finding out to what extent the boyfriend is really manipulating. Finding out what is already secured and how things are clarified. You don’t do that over coffee and cake. Such things take time.