Dowry hunter - Aunt's partner tries to cheat the grandmother

Now my grandma is 97 years old. She is fully mentally fit, walks around, and lives peacefully in her house. Recently, voices have been raised by the party saying that grandma is already so frail and not quite right in the head anymore. That is of course a lie, we visited her, everything as usual

Honestly; if you only visit every few months, you can't judge at all. Old people tend to bring out the best in themselves on special occasions. This often happens when the MDK comes regarding care level assessments. Then suddenly there is no more frailty. That’s just how this generation is.

You don’t have to put her in a home right away. Often a little support from a home care service is enough. But it is very presumptuous to judge from over 500 km away...

In September we want to visit grandma. Then I will ask her again what should be done if she should get worse.

The topic seems very important to you. And then let 1.5 months pass?

My aunt herself is not even the problem. Her type wants to rip off grandma and put her in a home.

Then where is the problem?

I don’t understand. Did I ever say that I wanted the house for myself? I already have one! And I don’t care about the money. Only the idiot shouldn’t take it away from Grandma and the family.

Apart from that, I theoretically can’t be a fortune hunter, since I would be the direct compulsory heir. But it’s about a person who is not even related to us. She is only my aunt’s "boyfriend." My aunt herself isn’t even the problem. Her guy wants to rip off Grandma and put her in a nursing home.

To those who make such absurd accusations, I can only wish that they end up in such a precarious situation themselves. Then I would also simply say, "You must be the greedy fool yourself."

Did I ever say that I think like that about you? I only said, imagine the other side. Apparently, you can’t do that.

Besides, I am not greedy. I always tell my parents and grandparents to travel as long as they can. We don’t need the money.

I would like to point out that we always only hear one side here. Imagine the other side. As soon as the sister is gone, the niece suddenly becomes interested in grandma and her house. Posted in another forum, Kaho is suddenly the evil inheritance schemer.

Yes, of course we only hear one side. It doesn’t matter at all! It’s about Kaho’s side now. I couldn’t care less about the "friend’s" side. And I don’t understand why some people still assume greed for money. It’s about grandma and making sure the idiot doesn’t see any of the money. Apparently, he hadn’t exactly distinguished himself before either.

In other words, the question was how she can "protect" her grandma so that the idiot can’t manipulate or lock her away in any way. If grandma herself wants to leave everything to him because she likes him, fine. But not because he constantly whispers in her ear or even harasses her. Many older women are somewhat vulnerable to that (I’m just thinking about the grandchild trick scammers).

Honestly; if you only drive by every few months, you can’t judge it at all. Old people tend to bring out the best in themselves in special moments. That often happens when the MDK comes regarding care level assessments. Suddenly, there’s no frailty anymore. That’s just how this generation is.

That can of course be the case. It may also fluctuate a lot.

You don’t have to put her directly into a home either. Often a bit of support from a home care service is enough. But it is very presumptuous to judge this from over 500 km away...

Grandma already has care — I don’t know exactly how many times a week. Should we perhaps have that increased?

This topic seems very important to you. And then let 1.5 months pass?

It’s not an acute problem. I was more concerned about the legal situation. Apparently, it is actually very difficult to steal the house from Grandma, otherwise the sorry lot would surely have done it by now. Maybe nothing needs to be done at all.

Did I write anywhere that I think that about you? I just wrote, imagine the other side. Apparently you can’t.

What the other side thinks is perfectly clear to me, at least this jerk. He has already tried to have Grandma’s will changed in his favor. Does that need any more explanation?

Besides, I’m not greedy. I always tell my parents and grandparents to travel as long as they can. We don’t need the money.

Haha! Yeah, sure. Anyone can say that. I bet you don’t say no when the grandparents contribute something to the house construction! How does that feel?

I have already thought about it, if the guy somehow steals the house from her, then I'll just bring grandma into my house. I can take care of her there and she would also have company. Would she still manage it?