Stop or pause house construction? Costs too high

Putting your head in the sand helps exactly nothing. At least a planning stop is needed here.

The head is not put in the sand. Information is being gathered so that one has arguments ready for the discussion.
We have never built anything before and there is a lack of experience on this topic at every turn.
My husband just read through everything and thanks you for the answers.
Now we know that it is too expensive. There must be a cost driver somewhere.
We are talking to the architect about it.

You don’t talk about money, you have it when you go to the architect. But the budget is topic number 1, not only with the architect.

We were not asked about the budget and did not bring it up ourselves either.
As it came across, he first wanted to understand what we want to build.
After a rough draft, we found quite a few faults and with the second draft the right thing already came with a cost estimate.

Thank you all very much.

Very trustworthy email address. Betrüger@freenet.de was probably taken? :cool:

But this is not funny and not very helpful. Anyone can talk smart in the thread here - but no help was offered. I no longer expect any messages from the OP!

Going back is bad, the architect has to get the money. Building is not possible at that price.

Going back to square one is always possible. Better to have wasted €10,000 on an architect than to have built too expensively for hundreds of thousands. But the situation isn't serious enough yet to make a hard cut. So, tomorrow just go to the architect, act clueless and ask very naively why his cost estimate differs so much from the usual €2,500/m²? The neighbors paid that a few months ago. The second question you definitely have to ask: What would need to be changed in the design to get down to €2,500/m²? Of course, he’ll say prices are especially high right now. Corona, shortage of building materials, whatever. It doesn't matter, but you have to find out why the construction is so expensive. Is it really the architect’s fault, or the design? Because anything over €3,000/m² I wouldn’t consider normal anymore. But whether you agree on €3,000 or more or less as a target is irrelevant for now. Start negotiating at €2,500/m² and only concede upward slowly.

This is now neither funny nor very enriching. Anyone can talk smart in the thread here - but no help was offered. I no longer expect a message from the OP!

Now you are Eingeschnappter@freenet.de :cool:

Thank you very much for the willingness to help. We will think about it.

Um.....You seem helpless and insecure but "you want to think about it" whether to accept the help currently offered here? I think the pressure to suffer is nowhere near its peak o_O

We are waiting it out and thinking about what to do.

That changes exactly nothing!

Now you are Eingeschnappter@freenet.de :cool:

Maybe just think about whether and where you’re being picky. I don’t care whether someone accepts help or not. But using the word "fraud" here and thus very likely pushing a newcomer away again is just stupid.