Since I want to go for KFW 40 (Plus), he told me that I would have to go for 24 perforated bricks + 18 cm ETICS! (Additional cost here €1800).
What would you recommend? Is ETICS still "up-to-date" or is it no longer done? [...]
Since I also wanted to know prices for purely monolithic construction, I was given the following offer (standard is 24 perforated bricks + 14 cm ETICS):
Leaving aside my views* on ETICS and on KfW4711turbo, from my point of view there is only one fundamental decision left for you:
A. You only asked about alternatives because of the surcharge or
B. You feel discomfort or other aversions against ETICS (where the KfW level does not only affect the wall structure parameter and possibly also correlates with a controlled residential ventilation system, where I will leave my view* aside for now as well). Then this answer A/B has to be found by yourself.
When deciding on the wall structure, also consider my "stone mantra" (there is no philosopher’s stone or devil’s stone, but there is a wall structure with which the installer has the most experience and with all others there is more potential for complications).
If ETICS is basically okay for you, then 4 cm more material thickness firstly really only makes a difference for the U-value and not for you personally, and secondly you remain with the basically practically identical wall structure (so you are not moving away from the master routine standard of the installer). In my opinion, you should only change the stone of the structural shell if the installer has roughly the same amount of experience with it (e.g. if he builds 60:40 with stone X/Y, but not 90:10). "Same" filled vs. unfilled stone is basically "unchanged" in this sense, but I agree with the expert opinion to avoid doubling up on filling and composite insulation, as I consider that "well-meant," naïve, almost foolish work.
*) man, use the search function, my thread history is full of it, and a large part of the two topic complexes ETICS and controlled residential ventilation is, on closer look, subjective