Just calm down. Nobody here wants to harm you – not me any more than others. And behind the sometimes somewhat pointed remarks there is actually always an important hint, so maybe try not to interpret everything as a personal affront.
With my statement regarding financial advisors, I meant: A reputable advisor should already know in advance that it is difficult to impossible to finance things with a construction or general real estate loan that do not serve the sustainable increase in value of the property. Put differently: The kitchen in the house will probably not bring in a cent more when selling it later. The same applies to your other liabilities. Since the bank always thinks of its own security first, whatever amount is financed must be secured by collateral – in this case the property. As long as the property (in the eyes of the bank) is (significantly) worth more than the requested loan, that is no problem, otherwise it is. And now we are back to the issue with the kitchen: If the value of the actual property exceeds the loan amount even when the loan for the kitchen is included, everything is fine. Otherwise, there will be a "no," which, however, is due to insufficient equity capital so that the lending limit is exceeded.