That can then possibly also burden the entire business relationship, and especially that is really something you don’t want when building a house.
The OP is already too timid, who lets a tiger treat her like a lion. She is already nervously accepting the budget for the kitchen and contingencies being redirected into at least 60% additional costs as supposedly without alternative. Powerlessly, the general contractor throws her against the wall without even trying.
But let's assume that the general contractor would be accommodating, whether out of goodwill or whatever. That, of course, dies immediately the second a lawyer calls there. This doesn't quite fit now, but I myself manage a department of an IT company. From time to time I like to accommodate customers out of goodwill, even if it costs a few euros. Especially if my employees/myself are treated honestly and fairly.
However, as soon as I receive mail from a lawyer, I am naturally forced to contact our lawyer directly as well, and from that point on, accommodation is dead for both sides.
This attitude is regrettable, unwise even for your work, and not a good influence on the OP. Legal advice does not mean lawyer’s call or lawyer’s letterhead. And lawyer does not mean confrontation at all. I consider the mentioned specialist lawyer capable of successful mediation, and the OP should gladly also respond discreetly – for example, sending the general contractor a letter written by the expert attorney in her own name. Don’t scare the OP into fearing escalation!
I could imagine it works with concrete-filled blocks as well. Will that end up being cheaper?
Do you mean formwork blocks?
I’m assuming here a downgrade* to slab foundation, reduction of house area, and above-ground basement replacement space done by herself, otherwise the OP would be paying forever with asset damage for the naïve signature.
*) mind you after the rescue by specialist lawyer and debt counselor!