Dissatisfied with the new building as there are now other options

What is causing the contacts to fail?

I would make it dependent on this: did you enjoy building?

You already answered this question above: no.

Then I would leave it, especially in today's times when you can't just find a huge plot somewhere else.

Your flush doors wouldn't change a thing about your life – it doesn't take long before people don't even notice them...

Take care of yourself – change what can be changed.

I have wasted 8 years on "living" by now... I know what I'm talking about (-;

Even if you write that it is not for self-presentation: My first impression was quite pretentious. You have been earning significantly more for 24 months and suddenly nothing is right anymore. You have a five-figure net income - do what you want. Do what makes you happy. If you can't afford every little thing, I don't know who else could. Secure your income mutually. Flew high, fell deep, hope that doesn't happen to you.

I thought with your thread, I understand you very well. Similar thoughts have been troubling us all the time, which is why we have realized even the things that are the most impossible to change (basement).

Ultimately, it will only be about 1000€ net more for us, which my wife will quite certainly, but not completely certainly, have in 1 year. In addition, quite certainly, eventually!!! inheritances of houses in our expensive area will be due.
Then we have not lived for years as we would have wanted, even though it would have been possible without any problems.

Corner windows, smart home, venetian blinds, whirlpool bathtub, higher-quality kitchen and doors... These points occur to us as well (although we earn significantly less ;-) )
So, as I said, I actually totally understand that!

But after I looked at the mentioned thread with 1500sqm land and the mega great spacious floor plans, I find it somewhat strange to still be dissatisfied there ;-)
You surely don't want to trade our 300sqm land and 80sqm buildable area, even if we now had KNX....

Even if you write it is not for self-presentation: My first impression was quite arrogant. You have been earning significantly more for 24 months and suddenly everything isn't right anymore.

You have a five-figure net income - Do what you want. Do what makes you happy. If you can't afford every little luxury, I don't know who else can. Secure your income mutually. High-flying, hard falling, hope it doesn't happen to you.

Yes, that is true and I am aware of it. It may well be that we won't always earn as much as we do now.
But I also see that about 2.5 years ago, when I returned to work after the second parental leave, I fell into the typical "mom trap." The main thing was that the job could be reconciled with the kids, without overburdening myself.
Thank God, due to various upheavals in my current company, the "mom job" was no longer one after just six weeks. I was able to prove myself and suddenly realized that I also enjoy being professionally challenged with children. It could have gone differently, and I would have remained at a clerical level in the long term. That probably happens much more often than what happened to me.
However, through further training, I will probably earn 1.5 to 2k more even in another company without a management position than my starting salary after parental leave. Additionally, my husband has also had salary increases. Besides, neither of us works full-time. If one of us loses the good job, the other can at least partially compensate by increasing to full-time. And I also don't intend to use the additional income entirely for a new loan.

What is causing the contacts to fail?

We moved in winter. Just before the lockdown. The children were initially denied the adjustment period in the new kindergarten here. Although there was no emergency care in our federal state, they did not allow adjustment periods. We fought for it and then started in March. Properly normal with full occupancy of the kindergarten group, we then started after the Easter break. The children were together in one group, but they didn’t fit well into the already existing group structure even though both had previously been completely unproblematic kindergarten children. I cannot confirm the widespread belief that children adjust quickly. Since summer, the older one has been attending school. I think it’s getting better now. In school, children from various kindergartens are mixed together, so there are no fixed groups and the children are more open to others. The younger one is also more in contact with the children in the kindergarten now, since she can no longer cling so much to her older sister. But in general, it was just easier in our village. We also moved there, but with babies I always found connections quickly. At the latest when they were in nursery age. Both children had lively contacts there. They already have their activities here (dancing and riding), but not so many play contacts in the afternoon.