Dissatisfied with the new building as there are now other options

I'll put it this way: "Easy come, easy go" happens to many when suddenly there is a lot of money. Nothing is good enough anymore, nothing is impossible anymore. I went through that phase in my early 20s. Even as a single person, you can easily make five figures a month without much left over. I had to realize, it doesn't make you happy, it doesn't make you content, rather the opposite. I no longer recognized myself. And now? It means nothing to me anymore. No more sporty Mercedes, no, it's a Golf Variant, no brand clothes, nothing. What I want to say is that inner satisfaction is not gained through the consumption of luxury goods. The thing with your children is really a shame. There really seems to be something to the difference between village and city. My sister was surprised at how things work around here. Actively take care to maintain contact. Stay on it. Try inviting the children to play with yours. Leave a note with your phone number in the cloakroom of the respective child. I did that too. Even I don’t know all the parents around here anymore, and yes, Corona doesn't make it easier.

I find it quite interesting how some here almost suspect a hidden midlife crisis o_O Some questions are, I believe, meant exactly as they are asked here! I have quite often experienced that people have advised us 'not to build too cheaply'. They face the same 'problem' as the OP. Money in the bank, but the house does not allow for the implementation of the wishes! Just keep looking for a plot of land and with a possible new build, you won't be starting from scratch again. Your house today (with real experience!) is the basis. Just have everything done, no EL, reduce the stress! I understand your thoughts!

Well, anyone who wants to put themselves through construction stress again after such a short time because of such 'minor issues' has more motivation than the actual 'defects' in the house justify. It's not as if the house of were a poorhouse. The state of satisfaction comes from within, not from outside. There is always something bigger, more beautiful, better.

That I would only do if planning, building, negotiating, etc. was fun... And she denied that... You can approach it with ease and fun... To put yourself through all that stress again because of a few aesthetic things: never

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I can very well understand what you are writing and I maintain that it is a good idea to look for another plot of land and/or an existing dream house. In my assessment, your husband and you are (also) successful because you do not stand still, keep looking for better opportunities, for optimization, because you move forward when something is not quite satisfactory and you are not afraid of change. I think these are good qualities professionally and privately, which now also show themselves regarding the house. There really is nothing against improving your living conditions if you have the possibility to do so. And why should you endure the (nagging?) feeling of dissatisfaction for years if it doesn't have to be?
(By the way, I am different, more of a Smurf nature. ;-) )

I hope I was allowed to express my above assumptions even though we do not know each other personally. I have successful people in my circle of friends who have occasionally been in a similar situation. If I have overstepped with my contribution, please excuse me.

Consumption has nothing to do with going ahead, striving for professional success, nothing to do with standing still. Consumption is often a substitute and a distraction.

Just ask the bankers here. How many step on like Count Coke and the bank account is empty, how many wealthy and professionally successful live relatively modestly? The nouveau riche who have to show everyone, excepted.

This is about a different kitchen - the current one is not the one from the bargain corner of the hardware store, for essentials like flush moldings. That is optics not even function. Do the children have more social contacts because of it? Does it beam you back into the old environment?