Dissatisfied with the new building as there are now other options

The foundation of satisfaction for many is the security of family, job, and finances, so that one can live life with peace of mind. It’s nice when health, vacations, food quality, and activities can also be paid for. Whether a few extra square meters or an aircraft carrier belong to optimal satisfaction is something everyone must decide for themselves. I personally find it a bit of a shame that one cannot enjoy the fundamental new things for a few years, so that a certain satisfaction could already arise here. We also have a laughable repayment, plus a small inheritance. That didn’t motivate me to reinvent my house—rather, as mentioned above, we have seasoned our lives with quality of life. I would repay well, maybe reorganize the house with an extension in 5-10 years, and reconsider the search for satisfaction. Usually, one just doesn’t want to bring their thoughts to the essentials, so material things are put forward. But that has already been touched upon more or less.

It's nice when health, vacations, food quality, and activities can also be paid for. Whether a few extra square meters or an aircraft carrier belong to optimal satisfaction is something everyone has to decide for themselves.

I can quite understand the regret over having overstepped the mark in cost discipline – especially since it was only out of unawareness that it would soon no longer be necessary. That is why I also suggest, after taking a breath and calmly sorting through ideas, to let this energy flow.

The basic foundation of satisfaction for many is the security of family, job, and finances, so that one can live life with peace of mind.

With this aspect, I recommend comforting oneself in the meantime: having well more than just enough with one’s household income is a very valuable fortune. Any psychologist, cardiologist, gastroenterologist, or whoever else deals with people burdened by stress can confirm that such a comfortable living situation increases personal life expectancy by several (and moreover: healthy) years. Four thousand monthly "over" is a multiple of what not a few people have as a delta with the opposite sign. But this is only recalled in a completely neutral way – I do not want to rush the original poster straight to the confessional in a penitent's garb for the sin of lack of gratitude, after all, we Protestants have abolished that ;-)

I know a pediatrician who lives in a (not optimal) used house, continuously renovated and has installed a pool. The money is spent on a horse for Madame, who doesn’t have to work, and a boat for leisure.
My general practitioner bought an old farm because his wife, also a doctor, wants to fulfill a dream before she suffers from a family illness: renovation, solitude, and growing vegetables.
A friend has a boat in the Canaries and a boat here, on which they live alternately. The young couples around us invest in vans, campers, and the like; three colleagues in boats.
Fulfilling dreams for quality of life is the trend. I think that’s good.
We know some with a decent surplus of money, but none who are unhappy with their house.
One couple did it: built bigger and fancier (while we were building), then got a dog. Then came the concession and the divorce.
What I want to say: since Corona, people have been investing more in leisure again. I think that’s good!
I would also reconsider the increase in leisure time through a reduction in working hours. About 10% of my work group actively do that. I think that’s good.

Edit: I don’t even know what an aircraft carrier in the kitchen is. Once it’s there, what will it be then? Kind of the runway? Even bigger or even longer? What else will the house-building wish list yield later?

I have already written elsewhere that in my profession I often deal with very sick people or the bereaved of deceased individuals. And never has one of these people spoken about how the frameless doors or the aircraft carrier in the kitchen made a significant difference when concluding and processing a life. What ultimately counts are the moments in which people have earned a bit of freedom and the web of relationships. All the rest falls away from life before life ends.

It is indeed an enlightening question to occasionally ask oneself what one might think about at the end of one’s life. If the kitchen is still that important, great. Then definitely do it.

What exactly is being philosophized here? :cool: Anyone can spend the money on whatever they like or think they "need." "Doesn’t matter." And even if there are 98 more pages of "Good Advice." Do it. Period.;)

What exactly is being philosophized about here? :cool:

What? Possible thought processes that can lead to a good decision. "Do it. Period." is just one possible answer.