Sell house directly again - Prepayment penalty

the good thing is: there is.no wrong decision. You always decide as best as possible at the moment. Afterwards you are always wiser. Nothing at all bad.

thank you, that feels good to hear… the good thing is also that you learn. For the next property I will spend a few nights there before buying.

I think we can end the topic here as well.

That's true. We currently have a east wind, and this morning we hear the highway. I measured with the app: from the bed it's about 35/37 dB, at the south window itself about 43 dB.
The volume and the (negative) perception are there, otherwise I wouldn't have measured. However, I block it out. Let's put it this way: I can, if I want to.

I have been quietly reading all of this and want to tell you again that I am very impressed by how objectively you are dealing with it, even though the topic is so distressing to you. Hats off to that, not everyone manages that.

Personally, I feel similar to you in some points, only it manifests differently in me. But after all the stress with building a house, moving, furnishing, etc., suddenly one lacks a goal, a task. You have really achieved everything you dreamed of in your life. You have been occupied with it for years. Almost too good to be true.
Here, many have probably felt similarly or have gone through this, and it has led me to excessive self-reflection. I doubt everything, and since a short hospital stay this year, I worry excessively, almost obsessively, that my happiness might come to an end, and I am way too hard on myself.
Not wanting to downplay your problem, of course, but I believe one tends to quickly fixate on the negative since not everything can be good. Objectively viewed, we are all living exactly what many couples and families wish for. Time and again, we get positive feedback from guests about how well off we are. And yet, I compulsively look for the flaw in the soup. I find it very difficult to simply settle, be grateful, and enjoy my life now. But I work on it daily to improve. I know all this intellectually, but emotionally I really struggle with it.
Maybe it’s similar for you.

I am sure that if you somehow manage to let go of the thought, it will no longer bother you in the long run. We have a railway track 500 meters away in a straight line and decided back then that it wouldn’t be that bad. After moving in, the shock was that it was indeed louder than expected; you can hear the heavy freight train despite closed windows. But fortunately, we calmed each other down a bit, and by now we don’t even hear the train anymore. Occasionally, guests mention hearing a train, and only then do I even notice that the railway exists at all. Nowadays, even sleeping with the window open is no longer a problem. This didn’t take us longer than 4-5 months.

At the end of the day, it is probably “just” a matter of mindset. But I also know how hard that can be. If everything else is fine, why make yourself crazy over it? In another house, something else will bother you. No house and no life in this world is perfect, one must not forget that, even if it sometimes looks like it from the outside.

I have been quietly following all of this and want to tell you again that I am very impressed by how objectively you are dealing with it, even though the topic weighs so heavily on you. Hats off to that, not everyone manages it.

Personally, I feel similar to you in some ways, only it manifests differently in me. But after all the stress with building the house, moving, furnishing, etc., suddenly one lacks a goal, a task. You’ve really achieved everything you’ve dreamed of in your life. You spent years working on it. Almost too good to be true.
I guess some of you might feel the same here / have felt that way, and that led me to excessive self-reflection. I doubt everything, and since a short hospital stay this year, I worry excessively, almost pathologically, that my happiness might end and I am way too harsh on myself.
Not to downplay your problem, of course, but I think people tend to quickly fixate on the negative because everything can’t just be good. Objectively, we are all living exactly what many couples and families wish for here. Time and again we get positive feedback from guests about how good our situation is. And yet I compulsively look for the flaw. I find it very hard to just arrive now, be grateful, and enjoy my life. But I work on it daily to get better at that. I know all of this mentally, but emotionally I really struggle.
Maybe it’s similar for you.

I am sure that if you somehow manage to let go of the thought, it won’t bother you in the long run. We have a railway line 500 meters away as the crow flies and decided back then that it wouldn’t be so bad. Then after moving in, the shock that it’s louder than expected; you can hear the heavy freight train despite closed windows. But fortunately we calmed each other down a bit and now we don’t even hear the train anymore. Occasionally guests mention hearing a train and only then do I even notice that the railway line exists. Nowadays even sleeping with the window open is no problem. It didn’t take us longer than 4-5 months.

At the end of the day, that’s probably “just” a matter of mindset. But I also know how hard that can be. But if everything else is fine, why make yourself crazy over it? In another house, something else will bother you. No house and no life in this world is perfect, one must not forget that, even if from the outside it sometimes looks that way.

Thank you so much for your open and honest contribution. Surely some points also apply to me. But the real problem here is that I simply cannot tolerate the noise. I have a medical history with tinnitus and maybe the sound reminds me too much of this illness and additionally triggers me.

Nevertheless, I believe what you describe there is the fundamental problem of our society and that’s why I am now at peace with myself that I will first give myself a year to settle here and think about what I really want.
I wish you that you can now enjoy that sense of settling in. Everything you describe sounds so wonderful and also the getting used to the railway line in your case gives me hope that it will be the same for me until we find our final solution.

So, dear ones, a little update from me and a question for you:

Well, unfortunately I still don’t get used to the noise. During the day I have my strategies and manage quite well with them, but unfortunately this week I noticed that despite the window being closed (it was open before and I had earplugs in) I hear a constant roar all night long. It’s especially bad in the morning. However, the roaring can only be heard on the upper floor. Here we have 6.5 m high ceilings. Maybe that’s the reason? How do you proceed here now? How much does a soundproof window cost? Since I now know that I will stay here for a maximum of one to two years, I don’t want to make huge investments. But at least having peace at night would be nice.

I hear a constant ringing all night. It's especially bad in the morning. However, you can only hear the ringing on the upper floor. Here we have 6.50 m high ceilings. Perhaps that's the reason?

I would bet that the ringing is not coming from outside…