Sell house directly again - Prepayment penalty

That’s all pointless. For example, I don’t have a problem with disorder, but my wife does, massively. You can "retrain" that to a small extent by taking it a bit more casually, but not the basic attitude. People at the age of 30, 35 do not significantly change their behavior, preferences, and habits anymore. And it’s also something completely different whether you experience that professionally or privately. I often sit for weeks in industrial halls right next to frequency converters, with sawing, drilling, and hammering going on around me. That doesn’t bother me because I’m working and distracted. At home, that would bother me, above a certain level. If it’s too loud for one’s own perception, then it’s too loud. There’s no need to discuss that. It’s like discussing why someone doesn’t like fish. It just is.

That it is loud does not have to be proven by you. Every person simply has a different perception and for you it is too loud.

I personally have the following two situations..

I moved to my husband in the neighboring country, having been there very often before. Since we decided to live there, we looked for a house to rent. We spent about 25k € on new floors, kitchen, and renovation, only to realize after 10 days that I really couldn’t live there! After about 3 months, we moved back together to my house. And it was the best, albeit most expensive, decision we made. We never had that issue again, it was good and a "mistake" you just pay for with money! Honestly, you can always make money again, but time and especially health you never get back once it’s gone.

Currently, I had the situation with our dishwasher since we moved into our new build. The dishwasher makes noises that are still normal according to the factory service. From day one I was extremely bothered by it. In hindsight, I realized I was basically on the lookout to constantly confirm to myself how loud the machine was. In the meantime, I caught myself that the dishwasher had already run through half the program and I hadn’t noticed anything, although it continued making noises as soon as I concentrated on it again. I decided simply to stop paying attention to the machine.. It may sound silly, but I really don’t hear it anymore.

Everything only has as much meaning and importance as we allow it to have.

And if you still want to move away a year later, then screw the money and give up the place!!

Thank you for the encouragement and the nice messages :-) Yes, the thing with the house and me is not going to work out anymore. A certain adjustment will definitely occur, but when the neighbors tell me "Yes, we’ve gotten used to it, but we prefer not to use the terrace when the wind is from the west," then I just think that I don’t want that for my own home. I want peace and quiet for my family.

Well, we have now applied for the building plot in the old village. By the end of the year we should know if that will work out. The chances are not good, but one can always hope :-) If that doesn’t work out, we’ll probably have to reorganize ourselves in 2025. Until Christmas, I will try to make the best of it and not bring up the topic too often or give it too much space (the windows are closed anyway…), so that we can all find some peace. Next month I will start to professionally work through the whole thing. I’m curious whether that will help me.

now well we have now applied for the building plot in the old village.

Good luck! I don't believe in waiting as long as possible now. Your current house is simply not for you. Quickly continuing the search is the best. Fingers crossed.

Alright, if the neighbors have soundproof windows, and it is still audible inside the house with the windows closed - then it is probably objectively loud, and the app's measurement as suspected doesn't really fit. I also think you won't get used to it. Good luck!

We live directly at the airport Paderborn/Lippstadt. With a westerly wind, the planes fly over our town during the approach. After a few weeks, you hardly notice it anymore. With an easterly wind, planes also take off in our direction, which is considerably louder. But after a minute, it’s over again.

If you are that sensitive, you should also avoid wind turbines by a wide margin. The wind farm with hundreds of turbines in the HSK is about 20-30 km away from us. On quiet nights and with a light easterly wind, you can even hear these turbines, which, for me, rather triggers a calming feeling.