How much repayment is advisable for how much net income?

2018-02-02 10:33:25

For me, there is a certain limitation here. Our kids are allowed to choose a hobby or an "activity," but they have to stick with it. Swimming and piano today - drums and rugby tomorrow, we don't go along with that because it certainly doesn't train "perseverance." The phases of enduring frustration and continuing to practice shape character in a positive way.

One of the most important things, and unfortunately often not demanded by parents from their children. If you have certain wishes, for example in clubs (because you want to play in a team, for example), you commit yourself for at least one season: namely to play as long as you are not injured. Otherwise, it would be unfair to your teammates.

Unfortunately, I experience the opposite in the club: It is becoming more and more fashionable that kids are immediately taken out by their parents as soon as they first express "no desire." Even though before each season there is an agreement that participating in the team is not only fun but also an obligation. This kind of obligation can also be expected from young adolescents between 11 and 17 years old – or so you would think. But this requires insight on the part of the parents, especially with the younger ones. Which is missing in 50% of the cases. That you can’t always optimize everything to your own liking, that agreements must be kept, that duties must be fulfilled even if they are not enjoyable: This goes past some kids under parental influence. I don't think that's good and it will come back to bite them later.

As for "everything can, nothing must": No! Sometimes you just HAVE to do something. Kids can handle that too.

My opinion.

2018-02-02 10:35:50

It should have continued, unfortunately I got kicked out

When I already read... demand and add. It makes me feel sick. If the pocket money is not enough, then just deliver flyers.

I'm glad that my wife thinks similarly, if not exactly the same. So at least in "management" we agree and don't have to fight here as well!

Sometimes I wonder what you were like in your rebellious years? Or did you not have those at all? [emoji6]

I can still remember mine very well. I didn't have such wishes, but my father always secretly slipped me some extra pocket money. In my modesty, I saved everything, so I also had good equity for building a house.
But that's not how everyone is [emoji6]
You can't always shape children the way you want.

2018-02-02 10:41:54

One of the most important things that, unfortunately, are often not demanded by parents from children. If you have certain wishes, e.g. in clubs (because you want to play on a team, for example), you enter into a commitment for at least one season: namely to play as long as you are not injured. Otherwise, it would be unfair to your teammates.

Unfortunately, I experience the opposite in the club: It is becoming more fashionable that kids, as soon as they say "I don't feel like it" for the first time, are immediately pulled out by their parents. Although, before every season, there is an agreement that participation in the team is not just fun, but also an obligation. You can expect this kind of commitment from young adolescents between 11 and 17 years old – or so you would think. But for this, especially with the younger ones, the insight must come from the parents' side. However, this is missing in 50% of cases.
That not everything can be optimized to one's own liking, that agreements must be kept, that duties also have to be fulfilled when they are not enjoyable: some kids miss this because of parental influence. I don't think that's good and it will come back to haunt them later.

About "everything can, nothing must": No! Sometimes you just MUST do something. Children can be expected to handle that too.

My opinion.

They looked at me strangely when I forced my kid to at least watch the first hour of martial arts training. He found it really interesting, participated well in the warm-up, but when he was not allowed to join in one exercise, he wanted to leave offended.
He wanted to go, so he sticks with it. After the hour, he can decide if he wants to come again. Yes, he wanted to.
I hope I follow through with this.

2018-02-02 11:01:23

Did I end up here on Eltern.de or in the house building forum?

2018-02-02 11:13:00

I hope I follow through.

Me too

Unfortunately, it's even worse with us: Kids registered. Kids have fun. Kids want to play on a team after a year. After two games, both lost: nope, no more desire. Parents withdraw their kids, the rest of the team is incomplete and can no longer compete, season is screwed. Parents' comment: We don't force our child to do anything they don't want to...

The conversation that a certain commitment was made, which must also be fulfilled, is not held in these families. Whether that is ultimately good for the kids? I doubt it.

2018-02-02 11:43:21

Have I ended up here on Eltern.de or in the house construction forum?

At least the thread's progression has prompted you to write a post again after a year of absence [emoji2]

How much repayment is advisable for how much net income?

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