So, I have the feedback from the engineering office regarding the smaller Vaillant. He increased the supply temperature from 33 to 33.5°C and the return from 29 to 28.5°C, so the spread from 4 to 5 K.
Now the volume flows are lower and the small 75/6 A from Vaillant can deliver the volume flow.
Let's see how I can optimize this in the long term. It almost feels like an old building with 34°C supply temperature when I compare the benchmarks here with you. Our building shell with gable and bay window plus the many floor-to-ceiling windows really seems to make a big difference. But I am hoping for solid solar gains in practice, so that I can reduce the supply temperature over the years.
It's just a shame that I can't get the small 55/6, which would be perfect for our heating load, above the annual performance factor of 4.5....