100% financing - I understand that!

My wife is now on parental leave for one year and wants to work full-time again afterwards (35 hours according to the collective agreement). She has no desire to work less, quote: I did not study for four years so that after the birth of our child I would only do the idiot jobs in the company because of part-time work, for which I wouldn't have needed to study. She enjoys the work, so why should she stay at home for three years or only work full-time again when the child starts school?

Well, maybe one should personally reflect on what went wrong if things turn out like that in part-time and reflect a bit on oneself.
I work part-time after university studies but receive tasks corresponding to my qualification.

My wife is now on parental leave for one year and wants to work full-time again afterwards (35 hours according to the collective agreement). She doesn’t want to do less, quote: I didn’t study for four years so that after the birth of our child I would only do the idiot jobs in the company because of part-time work, for which I wouldn’t have had to study. She enjoys her work, so why should she stay at home for three years or only work full-time again when the child goes to school?

To me it sounds like some women have no joy in their job and use the child as an extreme strategy to take a long break here. I find that totally creepy and also inappropriate from the women.

I am usually absolutely tolerant on this topic and basically accept any lifestyle model – but this one I really cannot understand. I do not understand per se why you want a child if afterwards you can hardly spend time with them or want to – under these circumstances you wouldn’t even get a dog... I will soon be a mom too and have also studied and do not intend to give up my personal career goal – but since the desire for a child was there now, the career has to wait. To the extent that you describe, the wish for children and a career simply cannot be reconciled, not because the care couldn’t be managed (there are corresponding offers after all), but because one should actually know that one of the two will simply be short of time.

under these circumstances, one wouldn't even get a dog...

As stupid as this comparison is, it is true if you cannot take the dog to the office.

Interesting that this discussion is still being conducted as if it were the last millennium... and equally interesting that women still stab each other in the back here.

My experience as an layperson:
After the reunification, employees socialized in the former GDR (I assume the education system of the former GDR is known) came to our company here in the West. The entire team also did a lot together privately, since we were all about the same age and employed in the university sector. Thus, I believe I can form an opinion.
None of them seemed to me more or less "damaged" than the employees raised/grown up here in the West. The only difference I thought I perceived was that the employees from the former GDR appeared to me as more socially competent. For example, they brought cake more often, helped more with organizing Christmas parties, remembered colleagues' birthdays more frequently, etc. From my point of view, this could very well be related to the fact that they learned very early on to interact with other social beings and to be confronted with their needs.
Regarding personal happiness, private lifestyle and professional success, I could not detect any difference among those who were not exclusively cared for by the mother or father during their first years of life.

Interesting that this discussion is still being conducted as if in the last millennium ... and equally interesting that women still stab each other in the back here.

My experience as a layperson: After the reunification, employees socialized in the former GDR (I assume the education system of the former GDR is known) came to our company here in the West. The entire team also did a lot of things together privately, as we were all about the same age and were employed in the academic field. So I think I can form an opinion. None of them seemed more or less "damaged" to me than the employees raised/grown up here in the West. The only difference I thought I perceived was that the employees from the former GDR seemed more socially competent to me. For example, they brought cake more often, helped more with the preparation of Christmas parties, remembered colleagues’ birthdays more frequently, etc. From my point of view, this could well be related to the fact that they learned very early to interact with other social beings and to be confronted with their needs. Regarding personal happiness, private lifestyle, and career success, I could not detect any difference in people who in their first years of life were not exclusively cared for by the mother or father.

Ok and what does this have to do with full-time / part-time / career? "Ossis" also had the habit of isolating themselves and only meeting with Ossis in the West. I have an Ossi wife and she hated being invited to Ossi meetings again and again. We went together twice. It all seemed somehow naive to me! Like, in the East we manage care and upbringing, and here in the West everything costs a lot. So what? Go back. Oh, no well-paid jobs ... well then.

Both our fellow citizens from the former GDR as well as, for example, the French were and are put into care very early. I have traveled a lot professionally and have really met many colleagues. I myself never had the impression that people from the former GDR were somehow different (apart from regional differences overall). Our children were acclimated to the nursery at 1.5 and 1 years old. I personally see no disadvantages in this at all. We have an excellent relationship with our children. Other children from the nursery that I know have also turned out excellently. Very polite, funny, creative with a good character. This is a matter of the interplay between the upbringing of the nursery and the parents.