Zaba12
2020-04-24 14:55:09
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I actually don't want to judge that. Everyone has their own life model. But financially, everything simply has to fit for financing. Everything else somehow follows. Otherwise, the exploitation takes care of it.
I think this is directed at me? No, currently and previously not. She would have to increase her hours accordingly, which the position doesn’t allow. In the previous job, both the position and the working hours were sheer outrage. Currently, however, she works 100% from home. Luckily, I don’t have to do any overtime and have flexible working hours. Maybe one or two promotions will come my way, or maybe my wife can increase her hours after all. Then I’d reduce mine by 25%, if it fits. By the way, we also drive old cars. But we treat ourselves a lot in everyday life. That works wonderfully because our house is inexpensive. For example, I introduced both kids to daycare and also spend a lot of time with them. They grow up fast enough anyway. Time has to be used NOW.And working part-time for both of you isn’t possible, or would you have to give up too much? A few years ago, due to the death of several grandparents within a short period, I also got to know several well to very well-off older people. In the end, almost everyone said the same thing. They would have preferred to work less and spend more time with friends and family. That left a strong impression on me at the time, and for my wife and me it was also clear that we wanted to work less once we reached a certain salary. In the future, with a child, both of us will work part-time anyway, but even without a child, we would have reduced our working hours within a year at the latest. We don’t need a new car, TV, or other consumption nonsense every three years. Slowing down is the magic word of recent weeks. That is widespread in my circle of friends. Well, about half of them work only 70-80%. But none of them were “consumption victims” before anyway.
You are right ...My wife now has one year of parental leave and wants to work full-time (35 hours according to the collective agreement) afterwards. She is not interested in less, quote: I didn't study for four years so that after the birth of our child I would only do the idiot jobs in the company because of part-time. She enjoys the work, so why should she stay at home for three years or only work full-time again when the child starts school?
To me, it sounds like some women do not enjoy their jobs and use the child as an excuse to take a long break. I find that totally creepy and also unfair to the other women.
Well, at four it is still somewhat different than already putting the offspring in full-time external care at one year old. But to each their own...We have a four-year-old child and we both work full-time. To be honest, I don’t see any reason to have to explain myself in any way. Especially since you apparently already know why people do that, because all people are the same. But I also have a question, do you run around in the office asking why people have children even though they might not be able to afford them? Sometimes I really find it presumptuous how you write here...
It's okay. Many parents go 100% because they have to, you because you want to. If work and care allow it, why not. Later, don't be surprised if the children don't distance themselves.As I said, I see no reason to explain myself. Sure, now she is four. But we started (or had to? Or wanted to? Can you judge that?) the acclimatization in the daycare at 8 months.