Very many unknowns and quite a tight budget/income. For me, that’s too uncertain.
Yes, in my eyes. You’re defending an uncertain project. Will you also bear the costs if it goes wrong?
Oh wow, now this is getting silly (sorry, probably too harsh a word again).
The sweeping statements made here rub me the wrong way – 4,500 net is (at least in my eyes) not a tight income, 400,000 is not an unrealistic loan amount, and depending on how you build and how much equity the OP can still save up, that’s not a tight budget either.
The OP has already acknowledged that they want to plan with more buffer and that their previous assumptions are not one hundred percent (but significantly lower) correct – the “Bänger” (that’s not even funny anymore) and friends consistently overlook everything the OP responds with.
Whether 400,000 will be enough can be judged when it gets more concrete – currently, this is just an inquiry about the general feasibility.
And now the question again – who nowadays builds without a budget, please?