Do you have a tendency towards perfectionism when it comes to the house?

You, just like me, have already noticed in various threads that I haven't thought everything through and planned it all that precisely. How is it with you? Did you have exact ideas and were you able to implement them 100%? If not, to what percentage did the result, at the time you moved into your house, correspond to your plans and wishes? How much/what did you change or wish for differently at a later point?

(Just an example, tiles in the bathrooms and/or on the floor. Some of you calculate, based on the tile size that was deliberately chosen, whether and where "cuttings" can be avoided or integrated in a visually appealing way. As mentioned, just an example, this is not meant to become a tile issue now.)

That's quite a question. We fulfilled a dream with the house and somehow found a middle ground between Neuschwanstein and [Höhle]. There were constantly decisions to make that we want to live with and can live with. Our house is perfect for us; we wanted to bring the vacation home feeling and living in the garden into everyday life. Tiles, kitchen, bathrooms, etc. are as desired, but if something doesn't feel right, it's also changeable.

Certainly, many tend towards perfection when building a house. Because it is supposed to become THE house.

However, from my own observations and experiences, most people fixate on a few things and demand practically impossible things here and there, while completely ignoring other construction sites.

For example, they then have perfect tiles and bathrooms, but the floor plan is a disaster.

Or they have had the finest materials installed, but otherwise everything is creaking at every corner.

This is particularly noticeable in the electrical equipment. Here, one trusts the electrician who already knows what he is doing. However, he often only does his standard program.

Life in a house also changes, and what was perfect at move-in can relatively quickly turn into its opposite.

I gladly reserve perfection for client projects; in private, I prefer to be happily satisfied with Pareto rather than, like Mr. Rossi, always missing a piece. When satisfaction visibly aims to fall below the 51% threshold in the medium term, the setting is changed and that’s that. Only when the doorbell says tombstone is it time not to move anymore ;-)

(Just an example, tiles in the bathrooms and/or on the floor. Some of you calculate, based on the deliberately chosen tile size, whether and where "cutting" can be avoided or placed in a visually appealing way. As mentioned, just an example, this is not supposed to be a tile topic now.)

I’ll nevertheless take the example as a hook to consider such things fundamentally solvable: concretely in this example by the fact that laying in a random pattern can certainly be applied to tiles. I’d say there are worse things than a pathological tendency toward perfection – other people have to go to dialysis.

Because it should become the one house.

In my opinion, the people must be crazy who build only the house for the enemy and at most one more for the friend, but then leave out the third one for themselves.

I have a tendency towards perfectionism in many areas of my life, and the house is no exception.

However, in recent months I have realized that with some things I have gotten completely stuck in my perfectionism, and for other things I have more quickly let things pass. It’s not that anything is bad because of that, but afterwards the perfectionism kicks in again and gets annoyed for not having taken extra time to make it perfect (for the moment). Because of this, I sometimes have to pay for it later, as things here and there need to be changed.

And then after a while, the standards change again, the child(ren) grow up, and you yourself also shift your priorities. And suddenly the "former" achieved perfectionism is no longer so perfect, and you start the whole process again. At least that’s how it is for me.

I try not to give in to this inner urge for perfectionism so much anymore. Because it really costs me a lot of nerves. For example, during the planning phase for our house, I sometimes thought about things so much to make it perfect that it haunted me into my sleep and woke me up at night because of an even better idea.

That is not healthy, and I am working on myself!