Do you have a tendency towards perfectionism when it comes to the house?

You, just like me, have already noticed in various threads that I haven’t thought everything through and planned it in detail.

I remember many questions from you that would suggest to a stranger reader that you, in your early 20s, living in an apartment in a high-rise, are thrown into life because a house is about to be built, without ever having been confronted with life before ;)

But that’s not bad:
You just prefer to focus on the person who makes the statement that you should pay attention to here and there, and in this curiosity about the person you forget the focus, to extract something for the matter itself from the question/answer.

How is it with you? Did you have exact ideas and were you then able to implement them 100%? If not, to what percentage did the result correspond to your plans and wishes at the time you moved into your house?

I used to be very "fussy" perfect (professionally I have to be meticulous).
Luckily, I am somewhat more relaxed in any situation as I’ve gotten older. In my opinion, life is not about achieving 100%, but about satisfaction. (Some achieve nothing at all and are satisfied)
You get along quite well in private life and at work if you focus on a goal and think about it. You question and also get opinions. The problem in many areas of life could be if you cannot classify the opinions or use them for yourself. If I ask my work environment how to best fill out a form, it’s useless if I don’t stick to it the next day. With this mindset, I could even be fired.
Could you see yourself as in the floor plan planning, when almost all good advice is pinkponked with “oh, we’ll do that later,” or “age is not my topic, we’ll live somewhere else anyway,” or “kitchen planning is not important to me.” Actually, nothing was/is important to you that was advised to you. This strikes me as somewhat aimless... Important is a romantic house with lots of roses and flowers. But that is you and totally fine. You are sent to the hardware store for nails and wood, and you come back with flowers :)

And yes, I think most people think differently: whether 100% or not: there is a plan, you think about it. And plans are legitimately changed. To what percentage is completely irrelevant. Others might see that differently :)
I’m absolutely sure now that you don’t even want to know what you’re asking, but just want to chat with us :p

but then omit the third one itself.

cry, but we don't want to get out of here anymore

I have a tendency toward perfectionism in many areas of my life, and the house is no exception.

However, in recent months I have noticed that I have gotten completely stuck in my perfectionism with some things, and for others, I have rather quickly let things pass. It’s not that something is bad because of that, but afterward the perfectionism resurfaces and annoys me for not having taken extra time to make it perfect (for the moment). As a result, I sometimes have to pay for it afterward because something here and there needs to be changed.

And then after a while, the standards change again, the child(ren) grow, and you yourself also shift your priorities. And suddenly the "former" achieved perfectionism is no longer so perfect and you start the whole thing over again. At least that’s how it is for me.

I’m trying not to give in so much to this inner urge toward perfectionism anymore. Because it really costs me a lot of nerves. For example, during the planning phase for our house, I sometimes thought so much about making it perfect that it haunted me into my sleep and woke me up at night because of an even better idea.

That’s not healthy, and I’m working on myself!

Is there anything concrete about this as well? A lot written, nothing communicated. :D

I remember many questions from you that would suggest to a stranger reader that you, in your early 20s, living in an apartment in a high-rise building, are thrown into life because the house construction is imminent, without ever having been confronted with life ;)

It is actually the case that I have always tried to create an idyll and have rarely (or never?) had to leave it. But I like it that way. (There are exceptions, for example the short-term price increase.)

Our entire house is already a compromise in itself, so I didn’t dwell on the segmentation of tiles, etc. ;-) that will all work out… With a small child, I also don’t have the time to get lost in endless planning. I’ll do all that for my retirement home someday :-)

It is actually true that I have always tried to create an idyll and have rarely (or never?) had to leave it. But I like it that way. (There are exceptions, for example the short-term price increase.)

Could one find you somewhere in the working world? It would fit if you supported your husband at home in the classic structured female role.