Desire for joint property - currently separated

  • Erstellt am 2020-07-16 10:07:10

Gelbwoschdd

2020-07-16 22:17:35
  • #1
So we have a marital contract that clearly regulates who brought how much equity for our house. Then each of us is registered equally in the land register. We also have a joint account and each has their own. Each pays so much into the joint account that after deducting their own insurance, each still has about 400-500 euros per month at their own disposal. While my wife was on parental leave, neither of us had much at our own disposal for some time, but it wasn’t only her, it was me too, because then I paid more into the joint account. Now that she works part-time again, she pays a little more again and has her 400-500 euros at her disposal again, and I pay a little less and also have my 400-500 euros at my disposal. This way all three accounts build up quite well and the child receives the entire child benefit into their account, which thus also steadily accumulates. I think it’s fair because it can be adjusted according to the situation. Although I pay almost 1000 euros more than my wife into the joint account, I don’t have as much stress with childcare. If my wife ever goes back to working full-time, I would pay less again and she more, so that we each have the same amount at our free disposal again. But it’s not calculated down to the last cent, and everyone sometimes pays for a meal if they want to invite the other or also sometimes buys something for everyone without settling it, just because they feel like it.

@TE: In your case, I would probably also make a marital contract, with what each has/brings into the marriage and then build together again, so that each comes into the land register. Then apply our 3-account model and that’s it. Then you would probably have to sell your house, but you would hardly need any external capital and with your great income you can still save quite a bit for your retirement provision. In case of separation, your wife would definitely have to compensate the higher share from you if she wants to keep the house and you would have to pay out her corresponding share if you want to keep it.
 

pagoni2020

2020-07-16 22:25:23
  • #2

Exactly!
You discuss it so that each side feels comfortable and that alone is what matters; if things change you can adjust it again. The important thing is that everyone feels good about it and no one has to feel bad, no matter which side they are on. We do it similarly and everyone knows they can rely on the other. I also think that some worries would disappear in case of a house sale or at least renting it out to third parties.
 

Pinky0301

2020-07-16 22:44:29
  • #3
I really think that's a cool approach, to each pay into the joint account so that both have the same amount of their own money. I would have never thought of that.
 

pagoni2020

2020-07-16 22:47:14
  • #4
Typical Gelbfüssler......
 

Altai

2020-07-16 23:00:10
  • #5
A very polarizing topic. I was once able to move into an existing house with a partner. It was renovated and expanded, so a loan (manageable) was also involved. Before that, we lived together renting. At first, I actually paid him the same amount as rent as before in the apartment. Then the first child came, part-time work, loss of income on my part, and I reduced the payment to half of the additional costs. But one must also say, I did 90% of the work with household, childcare, garden and, for example, restored the overgrown garden in many, many hours. Depending on working hours, my contribution adjusted; at times working full-time, I paid again, after the second child then for a while nothing, as I could only work 50%. It then ended, and the result of the relationship (financially) was: he had paid off the renovated, expanded house, value at least doubled (and in our small city we are not talking peanuts), I was able to furnish my rented apartment from my savings at a low level. Since we were not married, there was no compensation. Was it fair now? Did I freeload by living rent-free? I gave up large amounts of income to take care of children, household, garden, freeing him up. Our assets developed massively apart. In the end, I somehow felt like the fool. (For fairness, I would like to note that a high five-figure amount also went into my hobby; I would have surely saved that money otherwise)
 

Altai

2020-07-16 23:07:15
  • #6
My toenails are already curling up a bit: the woman as a freeloader, living for free. At the latest with the birth of the shared child, it is no longer so black and white. One (her?) gives up income, enabling the other to maintain their usual earnings. Isn’t that a contribution?

I think every couple has to negotiate what is considered fair when only one partner owns the house. Maybe she pays half the interest and additional costs, the repayment goes to him because that’s how he builds his assets? Or should she pay half the additional costs plus a reasonable cold rent for a single-family house? Or, or,...
 

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