Desire for joint property - currently separated

As long as we both are not supposed to be under the same hood, I see no problems...

....that would indeed be a bit premature, since we have only just gotten to know each other-

I agree that she does not pay rent. During the week, she takes care of our child more because I am always away for long periods. I also do not feel exploited by her at all, I want to make that clear again.

I did not understand it that way either. However, I think it is good that you are addressing it NOW and that from the beginning it will be clearly and fairly arranged for both of you, whatever you decide to arrange.

In the present case, however, he is not building any more assets through her moving in. Everything remains the same for him, only she has been saving her rent for years and when moving in it was not about buying and yet no rent was paid.

I find it comparable: If she had paid him rent (in the sense of: MORE than 1/2 of the ancillary costs, 1/2 of the interest, and amount x for the depreciation), she would have actively built his assets. Why should she have done that? So he invested (repayment) and she invested (capital accumulation), which sounds fair. Where I do not agree, however, is the fact that she uses the then purchase price to "buy in". Because the profit of his investment (= increase in value) is his alone. How to clarify that... no idea. And OT: Yes, it also bothers me that mine insists so much on buying alone (unfortunately we haven't found anything yet), but I accept it if it is otherwise fair.

I find it comparable: If she had paid him rent (in the sense of: MORE than 1/2 of the ancillary costs, 1/2 of the interest and amount x for depreciation), she would have actively built up his wealth. Why should she have done that? So he invested (repayment) and she invested (capital accumulation), that reads as fair. Where I wouldn't agree, however, is with the fact that she uses the purchase price at the time to "buy in". Because the profit of his investment (= appreciation) belongs to him alone. How to clarify that... no idea. And OT: yes, it also bothers me that my partner insists on buying alone (unfortunately we haven't found anything yet), but I accept that as long as it is otherwise fair.

I'm not saying that it's all easily resolved; ultimately, both sides have to feel comfortable with whatever they agree on. The "demand" for the old 200TE price plus living rent-free at the same time doesn't sound so good to me, but we only know this part of the story. Your lowercase addendum would bother me as well, although that also depends on several factors. You just have to feel good about it, otherwise it might come up later, and I would rather be afraid of that. A fatherly friend once advised me to say the bad things at the beginning, and I have followed that advice often since then and found it good. I simply refuse to accept that it only works one way or the other. So many things work, many but not all, because everyone feels differently.

I find your relationship, which is strongly influenced by financial interests on both sides, quite strange and rational at the same time. Do you then need a marriage or just a good tax advisor??

I find your relationship, which is strongly shaped by financial interests, quite strange and rational at the same time. So do you need a marriage or just a good tax advisor??

They do not exclude each other. As soon as there is "something," you start to think. It’s easier when there is nothing.... - No, I don’t find it overly influenced, it’s just that many don’t think about it out loud or don’t like to talk about it openly. But these thoughts happen anyway.