Construction loan - Ex-partner does not pay his share

I am actually not sure right now whether this was also actually changed in the land register. There were floor plans lying around once and every basement room etc. was numbered, indicating who owns what, and a right of first refusal was granted to the respective other party. I need to inquire more precisely.

Sell: I also had that suggestion. But I believe he is very emotionally attached to the house. Land gifted by the aunts for the wedding, house in the neighborhood of HIS relatives, he built it up on his own, etc. The surrounding plots all belong to him. He categorically refuses. He also wanted to pay out his ex. But she refuses.

During the divorce, the ex had boldly proclaimed that the children were the most important thing to her and that is why they wanted to keep the house as an inheritance for the children.

But since the divorce was finalized, she has found a new man (which is not reprehensible) and the children have become uninteresting. Even though the youngest is now 17 (still a minor). He turns 18 in December....

The three children more or less live alone in the house now and take rough care of the garden etc. (in their apartment on the ground floor) and that is why he does not want to give it up, because that is where the children should go.... (I would be of the opinion that they could also contribute financially if the mother does not contribute to the loan. Both already work and their respective partners have also "moved in". The upper floor is occupied by his mother-in-law, but unfortunately daughter and mother are like cats and dogs.

Ex is employed and earns reasonably well. But the money was always and is still only spent on herself.... (she never contributed to any costs, according to his statement the money from her was used for her clothes and decorative items) so theoretically she could be liquid. She also receives child support for the youngest, which unfortunately he does not see anything of. Roughly, she probably has 2000 net per month.

Property value: was estimated at around 300,000 euros three years ago but will probably not find a buyer for that price (due to the geographical location)

...something like that unfortunately has no other effect than if you wrote it yourself as a private person; the only difference is lawyer letters cost money.

I wouldn’t leave it like that. I don’t know how it would affect the ex, but occasionally a lawyer’s letterhead is worth a lot. I experienced it myself in a dispute with the opposing insurance company after a car accident. They ignored me; a letter from a lawyer friend and they paid. It should also leave a bit more of an impression with the ex. As a new partner, you are really in a difficult position there. In the end, you also bear the financial consequences.