Yes, it is/was about the window dimensions. But we have now probably found an interim solution - of course also for the sake of the partner. We are willing to compromise, it is just very exhausting. And it takes a bit longer. And no, otherwise we get along great and have long been living in a rental building that, however, exactly represents everything no one wants...
A professional is also involved in the planning, but it took 4 drafts until both of us were satisfied. That of course also takes time. There are certainly couples who shout hooray at the first draft, we are not among them. But surely there are more couples who need longer. I can’t imagine that we are a "rarity," especially since the architect said that sometimes it can be 10 different drafts before the design is finalized.
The plot is flat but due to the groundwater level, it is to be built without a basement. So replacement rooms had to be added here from the start. Also, the plot is narrow but long, the street is on the south side, and through the desired positioning of the building, two gardens are created, one on the south side and one on the north side. Both need to be connected to the living spaces. These were our requirements and our architect has now managed it as well. Well, it took some time but now both are satisfied. Maybe another architect would have found the solution faster... who knows.
Well, but if one wants a lot of window surfaces and light bands, and the other rather the classic tall two-leaf windows, then it just gets difficult again. But as I said, we have also found a compromise here. Once the architect has redone everything, we can also upload the plans.