You're not wrong there, but I would like to have some completely different idea thrown into the room about how the property should be used differently
I haven’t seen a site plan yet. No drawing of the property or similar.
That’s why I’m here.
I observe: that’s difficult if you defend all the flaws.
* Your dining area is a wide hallway where the dining table has been pushed against the wall.
* Children give up the nice view.
* A hallway with a window feels much more open and bigger, one without daylight is oppressive.
* In your bedroom with the nice view you will probably spend far less time awake than on the stairs and in the hallway.
* If neighbors’ views might be disturbing, other sight lines or occasionally other windows should be planned.
* And even if your husband does other things while he’s working, the access is dreadful.
* etc.
With good planning, you basically don’t need any explanations.
There is also a difference between compromise and suboptimal. In the latter case, one should know that it should be done differently, improved. If necessary, the floor may also have to be deleted.
But so far I haven’t had a better idea.
Could it be that the mentioned architect didn’t contribute any ideas or knowledge, but only copied what you dictated to her?