House offer with an aftertaste

It would be fatal if we only examine this more closely after moving in and then possibly find that we do not feel comfortable after all.

What can the house do if a crazy person takes their life there? Do the rooms change? Does the equipment change? Does anything change? Objectively: no Subjectively: your feeling

Don't get annoyed by superficial answers: here there are discussions about such really unimportant things: for example about the color of the roof tiles, whether brown-gray or blue-gray, which fits better with the car...

What can the house do if a crazy person takes their own life there? Do the rooms change? Does the equipment change? Does anything change?
Objectively: no
Subjectively: your feeling

but the OP didn't say anything else! In your opinion, should he leave his feelings in the old house? He asks how he can deal with the "faded aftertaste" and not how to furnish room A.

hm, I really can't keep up with that. And I find it hard to understand, I admit.

Do you no longer drive on any road where a person has died in an accident? Do you no longer use a train that runs on tracks where someone has thrown themselves in front of it? Death is omnipresent, only we ignore it. I really can't comprehend it. For me, that's conspiracy theory stuff. But I admit, I also can't understand all the women who are still Catholic today, go to church every Sunday, and are told there that they are second-class people and not good enough for the priesthood. But please pay church tax, and if possible also good church money. Well, if you want to, go ahead.

I am relatively scientific about it and will not understand what changes (except the smell) when the priest waves his incense through the house. Yes, someone committed suicide there. That is sad, and we can feel sorry for a person who saw no meaning in life anymore. Maybe the WHY helps you to cope with it. You could ask the daughter about it. Personally, it doesn't affect me, not the room, not the house, only the person who is missing. But not you, rather the daughter or the other relatives.

You can bring in your "spirit" by incorporating your style, your liveliness.

The new house is supposed to cost 375K Euros? Including land and turnkey? I would rather think about it again, that seems VERY tight to me, and then the 350K Euros here look quite different.

But, as I said, I am rather rational. Still: I would make a very detailed list of the costs again. There will probably also be quite a bit of renovation work to be done on this house, which will be added to the 350K Euros; on the other hand, I am quite sure you cannot manage a single-family house with land and additional costs for 375K Euros. That would be the basis for my decision. Exactly rational.

If you will always have a problem with the fact that someone committed suicide there, then no matter how much I might understand that, this is not your house. But no one can make that decision for you.

The only right answer is:

I have always told our children: If someone ever comes along who claims to know the "only right" answer, then please look very critically and carefully.

It is a collection of stones, steel, and many other things; whether ghosts were summoned inside or guinea pigs were bred makes no difference to the house.

The topic/question of the OP was missed here. As you can read, people are struggling with this decision; they haven’t even asked the house yet :eek: Humans also consist only of bones, skin, and other stuff... I would generally ban feelings anyway. It is scientifically long proven that humans decide far less rationally than they often claim or would like to believe. Of course, you can see it externally in a purely factual way, but dismissing other thoughts as nonsense is derogatory and ignores the fact that, fortunately, there are completely different kinds of people.

What can the house do if some crazy person takes their own life there? Do the rooms change? Does the equipment change? Does anything change? Objectively: no Subjectively: Your feeling

I dealt with this professionally and can tell you that it’s unfortunately not really the crazy ones who do it, but often people who are very old and annoy others their whole lives. Factually and soberly, it is of course as you say, but people are involved, children, adolescents, worries, fears, which are worth thinking about as a whole. The result can still be open. Considering that a new building was already planned in the background here, I could also imagine simply implementing this plan now, provided the calculation etc. fits. Whether anyone understands that would be quite irrelevant to me. Besides the situation with the suicide, the selling price of the house is not exactly cheap plus renovation etc. If it were that simple, everyone could buy a car in which someone had shot themselves. But as the market shows, no one actually wants these cheaper cars — apparently you are then not always so sober after all. Although the car is also just made of steel, has 4 tires, and hums... If a family member remains steadfast in doubt or discomfort, I wouldn’t buy it but never mourn it again afterward. Because… what have we just learned… even this little house is only made of stone, steel, etc.

I take only one thing from this esoteric discussion: the resulting room for negotiation.

Morning,
this sounds like the famous Porsche for 1000 marks in which a corpse was found.
If it were true (the legend about the Porsche) and it had been offered to me, I would have bought it without hesitation.
Seats, all mats, headliner, etc. ripped out and renewed.

If you’re lucky, maybe you can negotiate the price, but the other interested parties wouldn’t give a damn.

Regards, Olli

He asks how he can deal with the "faint aftertaste" and not how he should furnish room A.

There is no faint aftertaste in the house. Only in his head!
He shouldn't deal with it, but simply live in the house. I wouldn't give a damn. It's just a house and everything else is objectively hocus-pocus. But everyone is different. Then he should have it blessed, hire a ghost hunter, etc. It's just about the feeling...