House offer with an aftertaste

Maybe the uneasy feeling will ease a bit on the second attempt.

Well, you have now received several ways to deal with the situation. The reason why empathy is not exactly abundant in a house building forum is due to the nature of the subject itself. Just ask in a parenting forum how the answers turn out, it’s obvious :cool:

Ask in a parents' forum,

Ask teachers and educators if strange to concerning social developments would at least still avoid people who are currently parents ;-)

I don't see a problem there, I have already lived at least once where the previous residents had died. I am also originally from the medical field and have no fear of contact. A house becomes a home through its inhabitants anyway. Renovations are necessary anyway. I also wouldn't know how this should disadvantage you within the neighborhood. But if it burdens you, then just don't do it.

I lived in an apartment for two years where the previous owner was murdered, and in a very gruesome way. At some point, we no longer really felt comfortable.

I don’t see a problem there, I have lived at least once in a place where the previous residents had died. I am also originally from the medical field and have no fear of contact in that regard.
A house becomes a home because of its residents. You have to renovate anyway. I also wouldn’t know how this should put you at a disadvantage within the neighborhood.

But if it burdens you, then just don’t do it.

We are allowed to view it again on Friday, then we will see.

People also move out when there has been a 'mere' break-in, because they can no longer or do not want to live in the (felt) desecrated environment - although the "collection of stones, steel, etc." called a house is not to blame for that either.
A house is indeed a soulless structure, but buying a house is an emotional act.
Sometimes you come across a house that fits the parameters, but somehow the spark doesn’t ignite and you can’t even say exactly what you don’t like about it. In those cases, I would also listen to your inner voice. An outsider, who gives their opinion but doesn’t have to bear the consequences, usually sees it much more rationally. Completely normal.

With the prior knowledge you now have, I would – if I were in your position – probably start to ponder as well. I couldn’t just look at it rationally and say a house is a house. It might be different if someone had simply fallen asleep. But what is written so easily now is surely quite different in reality.

What Matthias 40 wrote, I find really intense and it would definitely not be for me.