House offer with an aftertaste

  • Erstellt am 2020-12-01 19:18:08

ypg

2020-12-01 22:51:14
  • #1
I can completely understand the oppressive thoughts and the mental pictures including "what else is coming" regarding the neighborhood, etc. And that, even though I have often dealt/have to deal with this crap myself - I would have the same thoughts as you.


Talk to the daughter. Try to find something positive in it. For example, maybe he was already older and sick and it was his own choice. I’d say: it was no murder, no external culpability, no dismemberment... maybe then you can talk openly about it and lose this fear of the unknown (death).
Put a worry stone in the garden for him or plant a small shrub that magnetizes the unpleasant energy. Say his name and say goodbye, stay outside now. Just for yourselves. These ideas are not scientifically based, they don’t have to help, but it would be one way to deal with it.

That will pass. Smile, approach them and let them know you are aware of the circumstances.
 

11ant

2020-12-01 22:54:26
  • #2

I would base it on how my family is "composed" and how the village ticks: Do people see a suicide as a tragic free decision or as a sin - in the latter case, and if you have school-age or younger children, I would want to avoid the classmates whispering that those are the kids from the suicide house. On the other hand, if your children are almost grown and the village is rather secular, it wouldn't bother me. A smoker’s house would scare me more.
 

ypg

2020-12-01 22:57:03
  • #3
I forgot: I would clean the house, meaning the atmosphere anyway. Smoke it out! You can say goodbye while doing that.
 

Tolentino

2020-12-01 23:02:39
  • #4
wanted to write similar to , that it’s best to think about it positively. maybe he was lonely and is happy about a family moving in now. He will be your guardian spirit. you can also put an apple on the terrace for him once a week. or a shot of whiskey. maybe then he will keep burglars away...
 

ypg

2020-12-01 23:17:07
  • #5

Great idea <3
 

pagoni2020

2020-12-01 23:26:16
  • #6
I also think that if one wants to, one must approach it actively, openly, and embracingly. If you try to suppress or push it away, it might come back to your mind again and again. In doing so, children should also be involved openly; they pay attention to how the parents handle it anyway. But one should also be just as honest with oneself if it simply doesn’t work or if one has too many doubts; after all, there is also a building plot in the background.
 
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