Dissatisfied with the new building as there are now other options

  • Erstellt am 2021-09-27 12:51:18

Crossy

2021-09-27 12:51:18
  • #1
I was just about to create a second nickname for this thread, but now I’ve decided against it. I also don’t know if the thread is properly placed in the financing section. The thread is not meant for self-presentation; I have been thinking about this for some time and my dissatisfaction is growing. Maybe some of you feel the same way and I would be interested to know what you did.

I am dissatisfied with our house. Not because it has any serious defects. It fits well with our current life situation, we have enough space, and next spring the garden will be finally finished and really great. Like many, we set priorities during the planning and construction phase due to the budget and also skipped some gimmicks. Now, almost 2 years after the financing was completed, our financial situation has changed significantly.
When we financed, I had just returned to work after my second parental leave, working as a parental leave replacement. I was aware that the job was poorly paid (for the required training), but the "overall package" suited me very well and I knew I could manage it alongside the children. I also always thought I would earn more in the long term and that this was just a re-entry.
Nevertheless, we financed according to our income at the time, as the future was naturally unclear financially even with good prospects, and therefore we chose to be more "conservative" and not rely on future salary jumps nor go to the maximum possible at that time.

Now, almost 2 years later, our financial situation looks very different. I’m still with the same company, but no longer as parental leave replacement but as a department head; I have also increased my hours to be able to fulfill the management role.
My husband has meanwhile changed employers and has been promoted. In total, we are talking about approximately 4k more per month. And now all the little things in the house annoy me, which in hindsight would not have been a problem for us. 100-150k more and our house would be my dream house.
Many things cannot be retrofitted now without considerable effort.
The best would be if my dissatisfaction would fade over time and I could enjoy our very beautiful house and our financial freedom, but mentally I am dealing with a sale and looking at plots of land nearby. My husband is annoyed by a few things in the house as well, but overall he is more modest and especially avoids the hassle of building a new house again.
 

Grundaus

2021-09-27 12:56:46
  • #2
Make a list of what you don’t like and what should be changed. But it is always the case with any new building that a few years later there is something better and nicer.
 

Tom1978

2021-09-27 12:56:58
  • #3


To better assess it, it might be good if you could name the things that annoy you. 100-150k € and the house would be a dream house? I can't imagine what all can be installed for that price :cool:
 

guckuck2

2021-09-27 13:15:57
  • #4
Basically, I am not a fan of the doomsayers who say that a "costly" parental leave is looming. Ultimately, you can calculate it well in advance and compensate through savings. The time period is manageable. There are worse cuts than parental leave. At the same time, I do believe that high fixed costs, for example due to a more expensive house construction based on certain income levels, also create pressure. My personal situation as essentially the sole earner contributes to this assessment. Honestly, I "have to" keep working the way I do now, because otherwise we would have to downsize, as my wife could not compensate for the loss of income. Maybe it is actually good to have built with less income? Sure, you can always afford more, but do these points really hurt that much if they are missing? I think writing down the list is a good idea, possibly with an assessment of whether anything could be changed and how expensive the retrofit would be. Yes, it is decadent to knock the tiles out again after 3 years, but with 4k more (net?) per month, you can definitely afford it if it really bothers you that much.

By the way, I also "get annoyed" by smaller details where we were simply too stingy. I should have taken the slightly more expensive tiler. I would also pay the 1000 extra today for a modulating heat pump. In general, I would have handled the building drying differently with today’s knowledge. I would have liked to have clinker bricks, but this was practically not possible here due to certain regulations. Aluminum windows also look very stylish, but at the time they were not worth the extra cost for us. But well, are those really dramas that make me doubt the house? No.
 

Crossy

2021-09-27 13:23:54
  • #5
Larger windows or corner glazing, fireplace, air conditioning, dining room extended by 1m to rotate the kitchen island and be able to execute it as an "aircraft carrier," resulting in a different kitchen, possibly a small additional room, KNX instead of FaH, flush-mounted doors and other small stuff. I do think that in total this would cost 100k. The most expensive part would of course be the enlargement. Actually, our house is big enough, but then there would be the possibility to design the kitchen really great. Windows can't just be changed anymore now (I find that one of the worst things). Fireplace only works with such an external chimney, and the position is then not ideal. Yes, it is 4k net more. Our monthly income is now five-digit and was already reasonable before. Moreover, we both don't work full-time (70 & 80%), but not in Germany.
 

Gudeen.

2021-09-27 13:35:27
  • #6
Rather think about what you can do with the 4K/month in your life now, instead of sinking everything into the "housing" area. Maybe somewhat inappropriate in a house-building forum, but you already have a new build where you can live well and which, apart from the fact that it could somehow always be better/larger, apparently also pleases. Maybe there are more things to spend the money on better...
 

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