Purchase or construction in Berlin / surrounding areas, realistic?

That's why my question is whether you want to provoke intentionally with that statement. What is the purpose of it?

Please differentiate, it wasn't my post but that of another user whom I have justified from my point of view. The purpose for me was to shake things up by exaggeration that the salary is clearly too low; that is an acceptable stylistic device, you shouldn't react overly sensitive about it, in my opinion.

Think about how your partners would feel in his situation. The household harmony is already disturbed before you've even viewed the first property.

I see it differently. Especially in a partnership, I see myself as a team with my partner. If you can't even discuss such elementary things there, then with whom else? If the household harmony should be disturbed because of that, one should question it.

he with Bachelor

That is even harsher. An already once increased salary is about 27-2800 gross. That means with a Bachelor in this industry in Berlin, he started with how much, 2.5? That only underlines the problem once again.

We are not chaotic people either. We are down-to-earth, reliable, feel "at home" in the region.

Yes, and you can tell, you (you for yourselves, because you write here) come across to me as very likeable and "normal" with your descriptions and accounts, so all the more "a pity" that such people have a hard time finding happiness in/with homeownership, but we have named the causes plenty of times now, we only mean well here, no one writes these things out of malice or the like, one wants to open eyes and help.

Yes, it's fine. It was just a well-intentioned hint. It was never about putting you down. One never knows whether it came from ignorance or misguided loyalty to the employer. Just try what works and reflect on it once more. The number I mentioned above (40 TEUR) refers, by the way, to someone without a degree, but "only" with training. Just as a note... I wish you all the best!

The owners considered it important that families with children move in. Childless or elderly couples were immediately screened out. Recently, my neighbor sold her house. Despite an insanely high price, only families with children were invited for viewing. And of course, it then went to a family with 2 small children.

When we bought our house, the child was also decisive. Our three-year-old made the difference. The "opponent" offered €5,000 more, but the child and dog ended up going to us.

Uff, this is admittedly pretty tough for me. Of course, I understand that private sales also depend on sympathy. We are not anarchists either. We are down-to-earth, reliable, and feel "at home" in the region. But we are childless.

Oh, I didn’t mean to discourage you. As I said... you are certainly looking for a different property than the typical family with children.
For example, you could normally use every walk-through room for hobbies, but it’s no good as a child’s room. Something loft-like... or even the bathtub in the bedroom ;)

This is even more brutal. A salary that has already been increased is about 2700-2800 gross. That means, with a Bachelor in this industry in Berlin, he started with how much, 2.5? That only underlines the problem even more.

How long is the game "Salary is too low" - "Yes, I know, but that is not supposed to be the topic here." - "But the salary is still too low." going to continue?

A desire to have children is a private matter - this applies equally to the attitudes "we want some" and "we don't want any." This also means: just as a woman is allowed to lie without blushing in a job interview with "no, my desire to have children will be obediently put on hold until it no longer bothers the company," one may also gush about nieces and nephews who unfortunately live too far away but are so cute "that we want some too, hopefully it will happen faster for us." If you want cream, you have to shake cows - this means metaphorically: if you want grandchildren's plots, you have to "sing along" to the sellers' dreams of grandchildren. At least you should not vigorously trash the romantic images in the sellers' mind movies.