I find it really strange that people hand out pocket money in a marriage. A prenuptial agreement is always bad advice for a wife. Especially when children are involved. Unless you come into the marriage with assets yourself
I find it a pity how sexist and stuck in role models this forum and especially this discussion are (not just you , I wouldn’t have singled you out if I hadn’t wanted to quote your post anyway because of the pocket money, which I will come back to shortly). It is NOT always the wife who is poorly advised. First, prenuptial agreements do not always disadvantage the lower-earning/less wealthy party (you can also agree on the opposite or make arrangements that do not disadvantage anyone but just deviate in other ways from the statutory regulations. Ultimately, every couple signs a contract when they get married—by default according to the statutory standard terms, which are not handed out or read aloud, but still apply. Anything you want to have different from what is regulated by law can/must/should be arranged with a notary). Second, the woman is not always the lower-earning and less wealthy party, even though, unfortunately, she still is in the majority of cases. Also, women do not automatically stay at home with the children permanently or work part-time. By the way, for the first three years, you do now indeed accrue pension claims, namely based on a fictitious income equal to the average earnings of all pension-insured persons (? Possibly also employees?)—which for some is a loss, but for most women is probably even an increase compared to otherwise.
Regarding pocket money: it may seem strange, but the legal entitlement still exists. Given that one person managed the family money (as was common when these laws were created), it makes sense. Today, this law harms no one; that’s why it probably will not be abolished—on the contrary: if anyone tried to remove this regulation, hopefully hell would break loose. There are people in this country who do not live in equal partnerships (especially religious fundamentalists, who do not always have to be of Muslim faith either. Some serious types even drive around with fish symbols on their cars). Too often, the subordinate partner simply has NO money of their own, which the law does not actually change but the practice is illegal. And even in absolutely equal partnerships, pocket money can occur: we practice strict budget planning. All money goes into one pot, from where it is assigned to various spending categories. And two of these categories are called "wife’s cookies" and "husband’s cookies." Whether you call this money "none of your business," "I do what I want with it," "private pleasure," "play money," or "pocket money" makes no difference at all. Of course, we don’t need a law telling us that we have the right to this, but we have pocket money nonetheless.