So I just read through the construction service description of the offer I have again and couldn’t find anything that suggests that I would have to pay more in the end for something I didn’t plan for. Really not! But maybe it is the case that during the construction phase "suddenly" things might come up that perhaps don’t work. But when it comes to quality, I am immediately on your side. I can well imagine that in my case a brand quality is being talked about, but what does that really mean in the end...
No, I don’t see it as someone trying to talk me out of something. On the contrary! I am grateful for this exchange and of course learn a lot from it. I can also come to terms with buying a used house again and then renovating it. We did that two years ago with our already existing house as well. Worked excellently. However, the house has simply become clearly too small by now. And now especially with a child and I also need an office...
I almost think that buying a used house is now the better choice.