Are construction costs transferable to small houses?

Our wish would not be just any plot of land for the pixel home, but now a little house with enough land to later pass the house on to the offspring and move into the tiny house... Well...

"Well" is a true word. Oh, what a romantic notion: you are with your family in the house that your parents have left you. At the breakfast table the children pull on the nerves, and in the garden grandma and grandpa are "camping" in their lowered treehouse. That would have decisively crossed the line into cheesy sitcom for me. May I ask how young (= far from retirement) you still are?

Oh, what a romantic idea: you are with your family in the house that your parents left you. The children are pulling on the nerves at the breakfast table,

I believe that sitting together at the dining table is wishful thinking – I wouldn’t want to share the table with my parents in the morning. And they wouldn’t either, by the way. They have formed their beloved daily rituals, which are very different from ours. But one is allowed to dream ;)

I find it sensible to be realistic, but that it is unthinkable for a family to "stay together" seems a bit pessimistic to me. If nothing can develop, nothing develops either.

In my opinion, one should not expect that everyone stays in one place, but making sure of it - making it possible - does not seem wrong to me. In my environment, there are several patchwork "families" or "groups of friends" for whom favorable architecture is helpful.

From my experience, the most important thing is not having to share rooms like the kitchen and bathroom, because the potential for frustration is high there, but living close to people you like is something I find desirable. If my neighbors are not randomly mixed people but my friends - or otherwise close - that is pleasant for me.

For us (my wife has a talent for this and I like to be involved :)) such connections have developed. Not that there wouldn’t be any trouble then, but among friends you cope with it much more easily.

At the moment, for example, we are expanding the space in our house (with a bathroom and possible kitchen), although we are already managing well – simply because the attic exists and it would be a waste not to use it. Whether someone will move in – and who that could be – is still open :D

I just mean :cool:

That's how it is. Don't count on it, but have the possibility. Our family branch is fortunately totally uncomplicated and everyone lets you live your own life. And for God's sake, we certainly don't want to sit together every day, but in certain points forming a symbiosis can be a real gain for everyone... Whether with family or with friends. But those are [unhatched eggs].

I think sitting together at the dining table is wishful thinking – I wouldn’t feel like sharing the table with my parents in the morning.

I keep realizing: people have different parents and different relationships with them. For me, this consideration would have been impossible – both with my own and with my parents-in-law. In my circle of relatives and friends, there are similar living arrangements that work enviably well. In principle, what you can imagine is achievable. What you cannot imagine is also not achievable. Let’s better not underestimate the imagination and perspective of others. Even if we don’t like to hear or read it: there are no guarantees for life planning. How "realistic" is it to strive for these guarantees and constant risk minimization instead of listening more to your own wishes? In this sense, there is nothing wrong with wishful thinking as a guide for one’s own goals.

I find it sensible to be realistic, but that it is unthinkable for a family to "stay together" seems a bit pessimistic to me. If nothing can develop, nothing develops either.

Full agreement.

I keep noticing: people have different parents and a different relationship to them.

Oh, the relationship is fine. But I don’t want to take away their desire to enjoy their [splittetfasernackte] freedom at the breakfast table ;), just as they don’t want to take away our desire either to sleep in or to do outdoor hobbies early in the morning. This results in a completely different daily routine, where every family lets off steam. What I mean is: different generations have different life rhythms.