however, then I wouldn't have the possibility to place both children's rooms in the west. Here I agree with @ at
A room is much brighter and nicer if it has light from two sides rather than only from the west side. But presumably, the imagination is lacking here (as with some aspects of the plan).
Ultimately, 140m² is just 140m². For a house for 4 people, that is extremely tight. Unfortunately, it is also not enough for the attic expansion – increasing the pitch and insulation are probably not possible.
What it means to include outbuildings, the OP possibly has not even understood. It is not "planned in" but directly integrated into the house. One basically builds on and saves the new construction of several square meters by repurposing the rooms. Possibly I also missed the part where the OP explained why he does not want that. It has simply become too unclear by now.