Hello Nescool,
you have already received very good tips here and I can only advise you to keep your eyes and ears wide open. Look very closely at the construction service description, how much € are allowed for the tiles or clinker, how many sockets are included, is the laying technique and size specified? With us, they wanted extra effort if the tiles were laid diagonally, for example, and also sticking mosaic tiles was an additional cost item. That already added about 2500 euros just for tiling work without extra costs for the nicer tiles.
In addition, the incidental costs are not covered by heating and electricity, do not forget the building insurance and property tax, the chimney sweep for heating maintenance and, if applicable, for the fireplace...
My tip as a mother, do not rely on the care of the children by grandma and grandpa either. After all, they also have their own lives. Traveling, health, friends, and leisure activities. The grandchildren will surely gladly be taken care of now and then, but I do not think they can ever replace the daycare spot. I think we are still quite cheap and pay 310 euros monthly for the daycare spot.
I had also read very carefully about building a house here, and from the initially planned 250k it quickly became 360k without outdoor facilities.. That was clearly too much for us if we wanted to maintain our standard of living. (2 cars, vacations, spontaneous outings, and leisure activities)
In the end, we decided against building and for buying an existing property. Semi-detached house built in 2007. Not a new build, but still almost new.
We also have more income and already one child, and still it was too risky for us, especially considering the high remaining debt.
Whatever you decide, all the best to you!
I am editing my post to answer your thread question: No.