to Evolith:
Your kids are obviously still small. But that will change. And when your son is always hanging in front of the console and always wants to play World of Warcraft and such, then you don’t give him a LAN socket, but take him aside and say, my boy, I see you are a hero, a fighter. We, Dad and I, therefore want to send you to the Bundeswehr so that you defend our fatherland in Mali or at the Horn of Africa, we will be proud of you, and if you fall for homeland and fatherland, we will cry, but also honor you. Boy, what do you think about that?
And then let him come....Karsten
Nice idea, but it won’t work. My husband and I are paintball players and thus deeply in the drawer of war-game enthusiasts.
No, he should play games quietly. I even find WoW (as a former WoW player) very good. It’s a thousand times better for me than if he played Wolfenstein. Since his father also tends to become addicted with these games, I know almost all of them. My task as a HeliMama then is only to limit consumption if necessary and to forbid one or another game if it doesn’t seem suitable for him.
My parents never had to do that with me, by the way. When a new Sims add-on came out, I basically spent the weekend in front of the PC. During my studies, we played WoW in the Horde for hours or sometimes Call of Duty during particularly boring lectures. There were times when it was downright excessive and times when you didn’t even look at the game. You were outside in the fresh air anyway, at the latest to drink. And oh wonder, I turned out okay, just like my gamer friends.
My youngest is 3. He still has very little to do with gaming. He will also be kept very limited for a long time, as far as I’m concerned. The older one is 16 and deeply into gaming.
I think it’s stupid to tell my kid how he should spend his free time. If he doesn’t want to go outside, fine. Let him stay inside. If the grades, household tasks and social life are right, he can game until he goes blind. I myself always hated it when my grandpa tried to tell me that at 14 I should properly and neatly enjoy ball games in the park. That was okay at 8 years old, but not anymore from 12/13/14! Incidentally, not even in my grandfather’s time. Most forget that at that age they started sitting in some dark corners smoking and drinking or doing other nonsense. Those were the outdoor activities. Well, and some had to help their parents in the barn.
Conclusion of this novel: Of course he’s getting his LAN socket.
: Yes, but how many people can even operate their router? Most haven’t even changed the password or use abc123 as their Wi-Fi password.