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Evolith

2018-08-27 13:53:45
  • #1


I have decided to do it with my children the way it was done with me. I found that very fair. I was allowed to do things as long as I wanted, as long as the rest (grades, friends, household, ...) was alright. Through that, I learned early on to limit myself. I think I got my own TV at the age of 10. I quickly learned that it’s a stupid idea to watch TV, read, or play games late into the night when school is the next day. With my brother, on the other hand, intervention was necessary because homework was neglected for the TV. Let’s see how it goes with our children.



That may really be the case. There are plenty of parents who excessively park their children in front of media. We sometimes notice this with him in martial arts. My son has a strong urge to move and thus is often playing around, climbing, and running. In terms of agility and body control, he beats some 5-year-olds easily. These "noticeable" children have a daily media consumption (it’s not even mainly the TV, they all have their own tablet) of several hours. I try to withhold judgment even though it’s hard. I don’t know their situation, and everyone has their own way.

: If you want to discuss this reasonably with me, gladly. But I don’t have to stoop to that level. It’s just like the blanket judgment "You play shooting games? So you are a violent psychopath and will become a school shooter."
 

chand1986

2018-08-27 14:00:53
  • #2


All I can wish for is a good and quick eye that sees something before the fall into the well. Because:
It is not surprising that you could do what your brother couldn't. Boys generally think completely differently than girls on average and tend much more to lack of discipline and extremes in behavior.
Also, I am talking here about elementary school age. What are the "acceptable" grades at that point and what is the minimum time for friends, who decides that? As if self-limitation happens there... yes. But only with guardrails from the outside that children at a certain age simply cannot set themselves.
Therefore, you do intend to intervene actively. Which has my approval.
 

Evolith

2018-08-27 14:26:49
  • #3


Elementary school age is not yet the time when children can regulate themselves in my opinion. Sorry, I didn’t describe that precisely. We will set clear rules there. I have a real beef with consoles at that age. There is nothing personal about it and the kids are in competition with the father (only he has one).
The same applies to the TV. It stays in the living room and nowhere else. They won’t get tablets, they can use the family tablet. We probably won’t get around a smartphone, but even there it can be limited to the most necessary functions (calling, internet only on Wi-Fi, which is under my control). There will be a PC starting roughly at secondary school.
Once they turn 10 (roughly) we will gradually relax the rules. If it goes well, they have free rein. If it goes worse, we tighten up again.
So far we have been very consistent, let’s see how things go with pubescent monsters. With my son I’m hopeful that we have already laid a good foundation. With his sister we’ll have to wait and see. She is still incubating.
 
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