Evolith
2018-08-27 13:53:45
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It will definitely change as you get older. And then at some point, the question arises whether access to certain things should have a time limit or not. But you can decide that when the time comes. I was really just referring to the following: even if as parents you sometimes can’t offer an alternative, the media used for mindless background noise should not be a substitute. Then the child just has an hour with nothing to do and has to deal with themselves and what’s there.
I have decided to do it with my children the way it was done with me. I found that very fair. I was allowed to do things as long as I wanted, as long as the rest (grades, friends, household, ...) was alright. Through that, I learned early on to limit myself. I think I got my own TV at the age of 10. I quickly learned that it’s a stupid idea to watch TV, read, or play games late into the night when school is the next day. With my brother, on the other hand, intervention was necessary because homework was neglected for the TV. Let’s see how it goes with our children.
At our sports club you can see among the children of primary school age who is more often parked in front of the screen and who is not. Both social behavior and motor skills vary extremely among peers here. And unfortunately, prejudices are very likely correct here - just ask the parents how the rest of the leisure activities look - unfortunately, the hits are much too frequent.
That may really be the case. There are plenty of parents who excessively park their children in front of media. We sometimes notice this with him in martial arts. My son has a strong urge to move and thus is often playing around, climbing, and running. In terms of agility and body control, he beats some 5-year-olds easily. These "noticeable" children have a daily media consumption (it’s not even mainly the TV, they all have their own tablet) of several hours. I try to withhold judgment even though it’s hard. I don’t know their situation, and everyone has their own way.
: If you want to discuss this reasonably with me, gladly. But I don’t have to stoop to that level. It’s just like the blanket judgment "You play shooting games? So you are a violent psychopath and will become a school shooter."