A piece of advice to If you can eventually afford a fancy dream house, whether it's already built or you have it built, then use the advantage (one advantage among many) of your dressing room, where you can air out worn clothes in a corner on a chair or hanging on a rod without being bothered. A ventilation system does the rest. Of course, you don’t do that in 50 sqm; there it’s more practical to just throw the fabric in the machine. It seems to me, from the amusing conversation on the last pages, that people often indulge in features in the house that are very expensive per sqm, but don’t actually know the benefits. Also, a comfortable refrigerator, whether in a house or apartment, has been ensuring for decades that food stays fresh for several days and minimum shelf life dates are really just minimum times. It can also help to engage with food and its composition. Then it becomes clear on its own that you can still eat sour cream and yogurt three weeks past the date. Personal space, including that of a woman (of course nowadays no genders should be explicitly named, as no gender has a personal privilege), should concern personal development and offer possibilities for free expression. If with your girlfriend it’s more about the visual things she can adorn herself with, then that’s how it is. I consider it a mistake if one (not only “women need”) excessively punishes oneself by denying any indulgence. The focus in the last sentence, however, is on self-determination: one should master oneself and not be mastered. Living together may work unbalanced as it does with you, but that rarely works in the long term.