You can't compare your work performance to that of a skilled worker, so that also applies to the wages. 3,500 hours amount to at least 2 working years for one person. How long did you actually build? For trades worth supposedly 100,000 euros plus materials, you have no warranty—is that sensible? Are there subsequent trades that have taken over warranty for your preliminary work? I imagine the final acceptance (if built with a general contractor) would also be "fun" in this scenario. Not every comparison that limps is a valid comparison.
It’s clear that the skilled worker would have been faster. But that doesn’t matter. I have done the work and on top of that handled my 38 hours/week job, in which I don’t have the chance to do overtime or similar. So the time I spent doesn’t hurt me.
We have built for exactly 12 months so far. Exterior landscaping is completely missing and one children's room is not finished yet (wallpaper + painting missing).
The only follow-up trades that had to/could take over warranty were the tilers and exterior plasterers, and they did. The rest was done by ourselves anyway.
For every trade, we always had a professional there occasionally who looked over the whole thing or even supervised it. In addition, the architect (also family) visited weekly and checked everything.
And honestly: The way it is often described here in the forum (zero own contribution because "I can’t", "no time" or "not worth it"), only 1 out of 100 houses in our rural area is built that way. If you talk to the builders here, all of them have only 1-3 companies working on their site and do the rest themselves. People still help each other here.
Back to the 3,500 hours: Sometimes we had 8 unpaid workers (friends/family) on site on Saturdays + ourselves. On the Saturday when the roof was covered, there were 19 people.
By the way, the entire site catering is not included in these hours. That was completely taken care of by my mother + grandmother who live right next door.
I can now say that we built the house ourselves. And you think about that every day at the moment and are very proud. The time was tough, no question. But it was a very beautiful time nonetheless.