Dream of building a house 2025/26 realistic? Currently hardly any equity, but we are fighting!

2023-03-07 11:14:49

And it’s not just the appointment dates for sample selections. You’re constantly at the construction site as well and don’t always want to have the child with you. In the end, an adult always ends up dropping out to take care of the children.

That is very individual and depends on the childcare situation and the character of the children, and maybe a bit on one’s own attitude. We are building for the second time now with child(ren). During the sample selection for the first house, we had no childcare and no grandparents nearby. It all worked with a small baby. We had 3 sets of change clothes with us, all of which got peed on within the first half of the day – that had never happened before. So a baby’s pants were just hanging over a chair to dry in the construction company’s sample selection conference room. That didn’t cause anyone any problems. It was a long day, and at times exhausting – but we discussed and chose everything.
If you’re already overwhelmed at that level of stress, then maybe building a house in general is not the right thing?
Of course, it’s not the height of comfort to have the child with you in the tile studio, but it’s not the end of the world either.

We really are constantly at the construction site, and there too – just take the child with you. Child + mouse, construction site, I don’t see the problem. That is life with children. You have them permanently. It always makes me a bit angry when society portrays children as unbearable burdens. On construction sites, on airplanes ... they are people, not second-class people.

2023-03-07 11:24:49

That is very individual and depends on the care situation and the children’s character, and maybe a bit on one’s own attitude as well. We are currently building with children for the second time. When choosing the fittings for the first house, we had no childcare and no grandparents nearby. It all worked out with a small baby. We had 3 sets of change clothes with us, all of which were peed on within the first half of the day – that had never happened before. So there was a baby’s pants hanging over a chair in the fittings conference room of the construction company to dry. That didn’t faze them at all. It was a long day, and sometimes exhausting in between – but we discussed everything and made all the selections.
If you are already overwhelmed by that level of stress, then maybe building a house isn’t the right thing overall?
Of course, it’s not maximum comfort to have the child with you in the tile studio, but it’s not the end of the world either.

We are indeed on the construction site constantly, and there too – just take the child with you. Child+mouse, construction site, I don’t see the problem. That’s life with children. You have them permanently. It always annoys me a little when society portrays children as unbearable baggage. On construction sites, in airplanes … these are people, not second-class people.

But it is also a question of respect – namely toward the people you are sitting opposite (or on a shared plane, in a restaurant, etc.). Imagine the person sitting on the other side of the fittings table is simply doing their job. It’s not a house, not their free time, not their hobby, not their family. Hanging a soaked baby pants on the table for them, subjecting them to children’s noise, etc. – is that fair? I love children, I have two myself (now grown up). When they were small, we traveled with the car to children’s hotels and didn’t get on a plane. We built with a child – but we attended the business appointments alone. And yes, that works.

2023-03-07 11:31:31

but it is also a question of respect – namely towards those you are sitting opposite (or on the same plane, in a restaurant, etc.). Imagine the person sitting on the other side of the sampling table is simply doing their job. It is not a house, not their free time, not their hobby, not their family. Hanging a wet pair of children's pants on the table for them, subjecting them to children's noise, etc. – is that fair? I love children, I have 2 myself (now grown up). When they were small, we went by car to children’s hotels, and didn’t get on a plane. We built with children – but we attended business appointments alone. And yes, that works.

I don’t want to go too far into this now because it would stray too much into OT, but this whole attitude that parents should hold back and no longer dare to take their offspring to completely ordinary places (hotels, planes, etc.) is the beginning of all the problems we are currently seeing in society and politics. Children should be completely normal and included in society, but instead offers for families are increasingly being separated. When children disappear from the social scene, a distorted perception arises. And years later you stand there, during a pandemic you thoughtlessly close schools and daycare centers for months (after all, they are just children), without considering the consequences. You have a shortage of teachers. You consider a 90-minute commute to the secondary school acceptable (after all, they are just children in NRW), consider their future negotiable, and when they then start gluing their hands to the street you get upset that you are late for work. I have a really hard time dealing with these developments.

2023-03-07 11:31:44

Hanging a soaked child's pants on the table, subjecting him to children's noise, etc. – is that fair?

They earn their money by selling a house to a family with children. Of course, that is fair. Just as the tile studio earns money because bathrooms with children simply become bigger. Why should anyone get upset about that.

2023-03-07 11:33:58

Stair builder was no problem, it's a playground for ours. Upstairs and downstairs stairs plus a really good play area. Tiles and floors were so-so, a yogurt bucket with building blocks and something to draw with. Not ideal for a child of 1.5 years. Door sampling was nothing to play with, besides the child being grumpy. Samplings on the construction site ... lots of nails, screws, and other dirt spread around. Ladder is great for climbing, but there was no fall protection at the top. That's where our risk tolerance ends. Sure, everything somehow works. But I'm glad we managed the offer phase with dozens of appointments early in the evening during pregnancy.

2023-03-07 11:45:48

Full agreement! This also includes being able to tell a stranger's child that they are going a bit too far and that the parents allow or even confirm it. I always enjoy meeting parents from the "my child knows when to stop" faction. Or even better are the fathers with bull necks who yell at you to leave their child alone because you asked them not to hit you in the knees with the shovel. So extremes are rarely good, no matter in which direction.

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