Construction financing with child support?

Now you are being unfair!

If you have five years to arrange financing, you can't submit documents one week before the deadline

I would let the ex run full speed into the wall.

I'm looking for the part where I become unfair?! If you have five years to set up financing, you can’t submit documents a week before the deadline after milking the cow for years, cheating and lying, and expect someone to still trust you and blindly sign documents that involve more than just a toaster.

As you make your bed, so you must lie in it.

You know, I don’t lie to or cheat on my husband, I don’t speak badly about him in front of our children, I don’t fraudulently claim spousal support by having his youngest call my new partner “daddy” so that it doesn’t stand out – all good ;) The “best” remarks are unfortunately the nicest things to say.

Why? You only know one side of the story. It is not up to us to judge anything. Besides, the story is very classic if you keep your eyes open.

Uh... yes, exactly ;)

Yes, exactly. I can read that here.

Somehow that’s the problem with you: first rummaging through the ex’s finances instead of waiting for the appointment and letting your partner draw the line.
Now supposedly the financing is settled, and that’s not right either.

When someone lies, that’s a tricky thing: usually it comes out at the ultimatum – you really don’t have to make a big deal out of it, unless you want to gossip or put yourself in a good light, where you yourself don’t really know if you have the right to stand in the light.
You wait and clean up in the end!
What you’re saying here is the classic story of the new one who finally wants to get the old one out of the line of fire. You’ve waited long enough, and she didn’t deserve the house anyway ;)
Of course she’s not in a hurry, but one thing connects you: the dear man and their four children together.

He pays, she benefits, you calculate.

You will never change the situation.
And I think it’s a pity that we probably will never read the understandable other side here in a construction forum.

I also have a man who didn’t have a shared house with his ex, but has already paid money worth our single-family home for the children. The children have a well-funded life. But that’s none of my business.
If he had no past, something would be wrong.
Malice makes you ugly. And as you said, “you reap what you sow.”

If my husband and I get along well in our own way, that is just as legitimate. There is no "right" or "wrong" here.

However, I find it extremely inappropriate to judge me, the ex, or my husband based on a forum thread

Well.... In the past, one would talk about “dirty laundry,” which is essentially what you are doing here now. At first, it was kept fairly factual, but by now the words have taken on a different meaning. In the end, the ex can do whatever she wants – you will never find kind words about the situation.