I completely understand your arguments; we have the same considerations, of course. Briefly about our current situation: At the moment, we pay around 1500 euros rent warm, without a garden, without parking possibilities within a 10-minute radius, and the children should not grow up in the city either.
Precisely because of these concerns ([monthly rate almost half of the income]) it is important to us to keep it under 2000 euros and possibly make regular special repayments. We have also already financed the plot flexibly and have a construction obligation within the next five years - with rising house prices and interest rates, the time frame in which the project is still somewhat manageable is small. Our pension would also ensure continued financing, and starting at around 30 is certainly better than starting at the end. We are aware that the returns from ETFs (or in our case, carefully selected individual stocks based on several reliable parameters) are not “safe,” but even in sideways phases, the portfolio performs considerably more lucratively than repaying a loan as quickly as possible.