Which type of housing suits me? Probably not a house...

  • Erstellt am 2020-02-16 12:10:16

Klangvoll

2020-02-16 12:10:16
  • #1
Good day!

May I please misuse the collective intelligence of the forum for a very fundamental question? I guess many people here have already given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.

First of all: 20 years ago, I built a house on my parents' property in a Berlin suburb. I was in my mid-twenties then. Now I’m in my mid-forties and still living there alone because this form of living (house with garden in a suburb and parents right next door) apparently represents an absolute exclusion criterion for Berlin women. I have to mention that I am generally not very successful with women and have to fight hard for every single date. But whenever a woman did end up at my place, which happened very rarely, that was also the last date.

Now I ask myself: What chances do I have to change my living situation? And which form of living better suits my situation? The house with garden probably isn’t it. It took me three years to build the house back then, and I essentially paid for it out of ongoing income because I’ve always had good contracts and earned well. Since moving in, I have been putting the saved virtual rent into a stock fund every month and now have around 400,000 EUR saved up again. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a house in another area. I also don’t want to go into debt.

I can’t sell my house because it is on my parents’ land. As far as I know, it even formally belongs to my parents, although I paid for it. Renting it out is also not an option because my parents don’t want strangers on the property. Leaving it empty is forbidden by my conscience, and it would be economically pointless anyway.

What options do you see? I have never lived in a rental apartment or a multi-family house, so I don’t know if a condominium would be a solution for me. I would always worry that someone above me falls asleep with a cigarette or someone next to me messes with the gas heater.

I am open to all ideas. Even ones I haven’t thought of yet. I could even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I would offset the mooring cost alone by no longer needing a cleaning lady. Then I could flexibly adapt my place of residence to circumstances. When others have to leave their apartments because a bomb nearby needs to be defused, I’d just move my floating home outside the danger zone for that time. Sounds not too bad. But—for example—I don’t know how women would react to that. It can hardly be worse than now...

What do you think about this?

Sebastian
 

opalau

2020-02-16 12:18:23
  • #2
Twin?

https://www.hausbau-forum.de/threads/grundsatzfrage-Grundstück-auf-vorrat-erwerben.27148/
 

Nordlys

2020-02-16 12:23:47
  • #3
The fact that your dates go wrong has nothing to do with your house in the countryside! Please, look somewhere else. There is a prehistoric embedded genetic program: Woman looks for "can protect me, my children too," "is able to hunt the deer so that we have something to eat," "appears potent, preservation of the species," "can feel, empathize, love." -- Man pays attention to "can give me children, broad hips, breasts," "can feel, empathize, substitute for mom," ---K.
 

Klangvoll

2020-02-16 12:23:58
  • #4
I just read through that: It seems someone is in a similar situation to mine. But it is not comparable to my circumstances.

Sebastian
 

Klangvoll

2020-02-16 12:25:13
  • #5
Yes, that has something to do with the house. At least, I was told that very specifically several times.
 

ypg

2020-02-16 12:25:37
  • #6
Stupidly said: you have to figure that out with yourself. Nevertheless, some remarks: Create clear conditions regarding ownership questions. You don’t seem to own anything except your savings. That’s just not true... That could sink I would see the women question as independent. It may be that you lack charisma, looks and/or manner so that you don’t interest any woman. Maybe just work on that? With a coach?! Usually, you don’t advertise your living situation on the first date...
 

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