Which type of housing suits me? Probably not a house...

And I have really been through all the single coaches. They tell me clearly and plainly that I am objectively doing nothing wrong.

This means in plain language: I don't know how I can help you either.

My parents would consider any decision I make that deviates from the paths they set as grossly ungrateful.

Parents have to get through that at some point. The longer this form of "blackmail" works, the harder it becomes to break away. Distance and change are conducive to changing the system. Physical proximity reinforces the mechanics of the relationship.

Recently my mother said to me with a very serious undertone: "Something is bothering me. I happened to see you leave the house yesterday at 10 p.m. Should I be worried? I couldn’t sleep all night."

This is a side effect of the system – the parents don’t always feel perfect about it either.

Buy or rent an apartment and get yourself a second residence. You can keep the house as a "home office." It doesn’t have to be anything big. Take a corner that you like and that suits you. I know many corners in Berlin that I like. Around Winterfeldplatz, for example. There you’ll find modern art and culture, a mixed crowd but not the stressful overly hip vibe.

Anyone who equates the AFD with the Greens (#25) might be a bit confused themselves... And no, I wouldn't vote for the Greens at the moment either

Where did I say that? I can't find it

I did mention the post number on purpose. This is not a politics forum after all - so just own it - it has unfortunately become socially acceptable by now

Twin?

https://www.hausbau-forum.de/threads/grundsatzfrage-Grundstück-auf-vorrat-erwerben.27148/

Or/And ? Multiple personalities?
Or are there really that many strange people in Berlin?

Somehow it feels a bit like RTL II in the afternoon...

Dear questioner, set goals and don’t think about your living situation, then it will work out with the ladies.

There really are people like that. But they radiate it all as well – as a woman, you’d gladly run away from it.

Your problem is your parents. If your mother already “coincidentally” makes such an observation, then you know she’s permanently standing behind the curtains, watching what the boy is doing. Can you at least visually separate your house a bit; i.e. put up a fence? You really have to decide what you want – either live your life and find a woman or live your life for your parents. You can’t do both. Of course, your mother won’t like it when you finally cut the apron strings, but she’ll have to deal with it.

What should your dream partner be like? Maybe you’re just looking in the wrong way or have completely wrong ideas. Do you like living in your house, in your district? If you’re into alternative green-left eco types, a garden for self-sufficiency would be ideal. Maybe that will attract interested women.

(btw... in the neighborhood there lives a man with a big house whom we only call “municipal neighbor.” He lives there with his wife and 2 to 3 girlfriends, who are constantly changing – and who can apparently all be assigned, at least visually, to a very alternative mindset. Where he always picks up these ladies is a big mystery to us; at least it’s entertaining to hear them in the garden on mild summer nights during their communal menstruation by moonlight – or whatever it is they’re doing there – ^^)

Do you actually know how your mother feels about a potential daughter-in-law? I randomly suspect that she would constantly interfere in all things and that the daughter-in-law can hardly do anything right because she “stole” her beloved son? That wouldn’t be such a great basis; then you’d have to find yourself a decent girl who endures it submissively.

I think the idea that you should first look for your own apartment is great. It doesn’t have to be a boat. Just find yourself a small apartment in the city, then you can drive to your house for work. It shouldn’t always be like this – but at least for one or two years to get some distance.