Which type of housing suits me? Probably not a house...

You must be the only Berlin pianist who doesn't attract women. I don't know anyone else who is like that. It can only be fake.

And how exactly am I supposed to do that? The other day my mother said to me in a very serious tone: "Something is bothering me. I happened to see you leave the house yesterday at 10 pm. Should I be worried? I couldn’t sleep all night."

that’s exactly where your "women problem" lies. Honestly, if I found out during a date that he lives with or next to his parents, I would try to find out through clever questioning whether such situations can happen without him setting clear boundaries with his parents... if yes, that would be an immediate deal breaker. And I’m still under 30 myself... I could imagine that confident women your age are even more put off by that.

I also dated like crazy 10 years ago.
A woman has to kiss at least 50 frogs to find the one.
A political question was never asked on either side.
And yes: questions are asked about his economic situation, but whether his mom lives nearby was at most "revealed" through small talk.

And if you live on your houseboat, what happens to the place?

What then happens to the mother’s expectations?

Your lack of assertiveness towards your parents seems not very confident.

If you keep putting up with your parents’ tyranny, you don’t need to worry about changes. That’s how it is.
Detach yourself locally from your parents. Even if it hurts them: they have to get through that. Visits are of course allowed. But if there is whining, then I would quickly take my leave, otherwise they’ll never learn.

The idea with the boat might not be the worst, as you could slowly increase the number of overnight stays...

By the way, I am not a pianist, so I don’t perform anywhere. I work entirely in my basement studio, and data exchange takes place online. Mainly film sound mixing, but also sometimes advertising film music. I usually never see my clients in person. And when shopping, at the hairdresser’s, etc., I only see older people...

Choose hobbies with people your age

Good morning!

I was mentioned somewhere here and received a notification. Therefore, I just want to mention that I do not know that person.

However, I must admit that his problem seems quite familiar to me. Until a few years ago, my situation was very similar. However, I was lucky to eventually find someone who moved in with me along with her little daughter. She is not really happy here, but she endures it because the advantages outweigh the disadvantages.

Maybe that person should consider whether a woman who already has a child would be an option for him. However, I would then make sure that there is no contact with the father, otherwise it is extremely annoying.

In principle, it should be forbidden for children to build next to their parents. At least where it is not customary.

I would like to address one more aspect: It was read here that a house automatically belongs to the person on whose land it stands. Can this be found anywhere in the building code?

Matthias