Which type of housing suits me? Probably not a house...

I would have to do a lot differently than before, but I hardly see any possibilities to bring about the associated changes.

You seem to be stuck in one place. You would have to change something about yourself. But my suggestion with the coach hasn’t even been commented on. You seem to prefer whining rather than leaving your comfort zone?!

I don't want to entertain anyone here, but solutions for my life. Somehow I'm in a situation I can't get out of. I would have to do a lot differently than before, but I hardly see any possibilities to bring about the associated changes.

Try to have an open conversation with your parents that you want to try something different? Make it appealing to them that you are doing it for possible grandchildren. A principle of care, etc. is that you should seek help if you yourself are breaking down. As far as I remember from my civil service time.

You are not in need of care yet. And I have really been through all the single coaches. They tell me clearly that I am not doing anything wrong objectively. Of course, they have methods that differ in detail, but in the end, it always comes down to me having to be lucky enough to eventually meet someone who likes me as I am and who suits me.

In any case, I have full understanding for the women who do not want to live here. With my knowledge today, I would not build here either. We are practically surrounded by large housing estates because my father was the only one in the 1970s who did not want to sell his property. Presumably, none of this would even be sellable or marketable.

Sounds a bit sad overall ... Big house, lots of money, a lot of work, no time/free time, no open communication, big wishes for a long time, seemingly no willingness to change ... Really should remember that you only live once. All the best for the future.

I can't do that to my parents, demanding a real division. Their world would collapse. They are already old and need me.

To me, it sounds like you are "partnered" with your parents. There are few people, regardless of whether man or woman, who appreciate that. Strange that you feel so responsible for your "not even" in need of care and after all fully grown parents. They have apparently arranged their lives more or less as they appreciate it, so why shouldn't you be allowed to do the same or why don't they encourage you to do so?