About the architect's fee: That is probably roughly the HOAI fee, I guess. Yes, that is really a lot for my taste. But I'm afraid in metropolitan areas it won't be any different if you want to build with an architect and individual contracts. Whether it is worth it to you, you have to decide for yourself. Whether in such a case going to the general contractor might be better... Just go to construction companies, see what they have to offer, get a quote. And then you'll see if you come out cheaper that way. If not, I would prefer the architect to the general contractor, but that's my personal preference.
We ourselves paid our architect about 20 percent of your offer from start to finish, i.e., from the design to completed construction management. Here in the region, nobody pays according to HOAI and 90 percent build with architect and individual contracts (this is the usual way here, as GUs are generally more expensive – as I said, the clocks still tick a bit differently here). For us, our architect was worth every cent. But almost 60k is a whole different ballgame. However, our construction project financially moved in a completely different dimension anyway.